What´s the good kind of girl for aspies ?

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Hi,
I am still recovering from a bad broke up of a relationship of five years(+ one year now) , three living together and married, the almost totality of the time we were full of love. But she breaks up in a very stupid way, I never would expect that from the person she seemed to be . She was a bit sad and cold in the last months and I had asked her a lot of of times whats happening and she said that was her job or her mother, but never explained well.She ended all in one conversation, with a disgusting news , and I was put in a game that I was forced to only go out home and suffer(my ingenuity is hard and lack of friends to tell me something about it, i was lose in her lies), loosing any right if i wanted to exert to protect a bit my emotions and capacity to deal with things, she had planned that. The world turned in a indistinguishable chaos,I have become a Skinny zombie,(but what happened this time is another history to tell here).Now, still very depressed ,but the usual Me: ASD , severe PTSD( with almost every day outburts). She have some depression and now (after she walked around and is smelling s**t) she is saying, I know I will never fall in love again in my life and, never will meet someone special like you.(By the less she recognized something). After all I realized she´s a hard neurotipic , always hide her intentions and emotions to be the most friendly ,to gain more control of the situation, but always end up complaining the people abuse from her and don´t listen to her, and very arrogant and selfish but not in a ostensible way . But now the other girls seems to me like goddess, but my depression about it and my bag of other problems, lack of job, is preventing me to maintain a successful conversation with these goddess and is worsening the situation. But now that I am single, I want to encounter a very docile one and sincere. Maybe a country person, another aspie(too rare?), a religious one? What characteristics are good?

Last edited by snaut on 22 Feb 2010, 5:19 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Perhaps another Aspie, or at least someone into sci-fi, RPG, video games, etc.

fresh out of school ER nurses, young and impressionable they already have this idea that they are gonna save someone. why not me.

That´s the best now But soo young they will seem imature like ex. A sexy motherlike would be good too.

you cant be immature and do that. they dont let 19 year olds in the er you need school under your belt, er nurses are usually 25 26 something like that.

just a nice sincere girl with a beutiful smile. someone that doesnt take the rules of socieity for granted but doesnt brake them just for braking them. not sure if that makes sence to you.

A girl who's right for you, as is the case for everyone else. Also like everyone else, it's hard to work out if someone is "right for you", and you can't just find such a person when you want either.

I'd say it helps if the girl is also Aspie, though. More understanding, and you can relate to each other more.

Last edited by Asp-Z on 22 Feb 2010, 6:36 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Those seem to be very rare these days, and they are a catch.

Video games? Do you actually know many video gamers?

Video gamers are often the most nasty, immature, insincere and promiscuous people out there.

Most of my social circle over the past 10 years has been hundereds and thousands of these people. I love many of them to bits, I can say its quite an accurate stereotype.

Huh? You were 14 years old 10 years ago????

Average gamer is around 35 and almost half are women.

A few years back, being a gamer implied a certain type of personality: geek. Nowadays gaming is manistream. Just because someone is a gamer doesn't really tell us anything about them.

They're mainstream? I was going by the interests of many of the people on here.

I learn something new every day.

I realize that this is probably unrealistic, but I will say what I would ask a genie for a perfect girl for me.

Kind, intuitive, sweet, loving, romantic, clingy, loves me for who I am, passionate (physically, not temper), and is fond of me worshiping her a bit

lets see, personality traits I look for.

Loyal, honest, caring, understanding, sweet, and if she has that air of innocence about her, even better....

yeah, ill admit, if I had a GF cheat on me, I wouldn't cry, id go berserk on the guy she is cheating on me with and beat the message into his head that he shouldnt even be with my woman.
It could be worse, I could be the sort to hunt down and kill the guy, then display his head to her and make some very snide/sarcastic/witty remarks

If my girlfriend isn't happy with me she should just say why, not just go to another f*****g guy.


yes, im the territorial type of guy :/

Average gamer is not 35. You're saying that gamers range evenly from 0-70 years old.

The average gamer is about 20, as the majority of gamers are between little kids - people in their 40s.

Half are not women either. Probably around a quarter.

I agree with your last statement though. The geek stereotype with gamer died a long time ago. Yeah some people still live up to it, but most are just normal people who game, no more sincere or anything.

Tbh neither are aspies.

i agree

I really gotta say this idea of "the right type of person for me" is pretty flawed.
We're all so individually different that categorizing which 'kind' of person will click with you is misguided. Any 'kind' of person could conceivably get along marvelously with any other person. Narrowing it down like this is silly, and doesn't help us at all. There is no predicting who you get along with, romantically. So long as they're receptive of your way of life, and vice-versa, love flourishes.