3 years with my GF and still i havnt kissed her

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Ok i have posted my fears of me and my girlfreinds releationship but a few of my freinds have brought this to my attention its pretty simple really i have been datingmy girlfreind for about 3 years now and still havent kissed her ( properly i mean ) ive kissed her on the cheek and hugged her the odd time and its not as if i dont want to im just REALLY REALLY scared and nervous of screwing it up and not even knowing how to kiss?? how the hell do you do that exactly it looks weird and i cant see myself doing it even though its not right on my GF even though she has never mentioned me not kissing her and i just generally think im the luckyiest guy to have her but also the worst is that the fact that i cant kiss her im just one man! and everyone else is miles ahead of me anyways but i dont care in the slightest what others have done with each other im just ashamed of my self and feel sorry for her most probably waiting for me to kiss her...... FOR 3 YEARS NOW!! ! the silence only makes it worse i ask her so you want me to kiss you and she says i dont mind which aparrantly means yes in an NT world but i need a straight answer either yes or no cuz i want to get this out of my head and yes i have had the talk of " it just happens" " you will know when the time is right" and to all of these answers i say this!



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*ahem* erm any advice or at least some direction on what i should do because this is getting me down

Are you sure your girlfriend is NT? As an NT I must say that it sounds extremely un-NT-ish to accept 3 years in a relationship without a proper kiss.

just be a man and kiss her. you dont need to worry about stuf it'l be good or it wont be worying wont help.

Yes, she wants you to kiss her.

Kissing freaked me out a bit as well when I was young, the idea of our faces being so close and swapping saliva was an odd concept then but if you have someone you care for and she cares for you then there is no need to get worked up.
It's always a bit tricky in one way or another the first time, doesn't matter if you seen movies or read instructions, but to experiance is to learn and you just need to do it once and you'll be fine like a snowball tumbling down a hill getting bigger and bigger so will your knowledge and confidence in the area.

Good luck and go for it.
*thumbs up*

You're 15! Shouldn't you be worried about Pokemon and homework?

Oh how i wish i was all this stuff is really upsetting me Pokemon was popular in my primary school lol and i have no homework im a lucky guy


BRING POKEMON BACK!

I was thinking the same when i saw age, but I figured I'd give him some helping info then start rambling about broken generations.
When i was 15 I did have some girls after me but i was to clueless to notice the signals and I played Pokemon on my Game Boy every day on the couch for 8 hour straight.
It was awesome.
Kids today are so mangle by fashion and media and looks they are behaving like small preadults, the things they wear the things they have and the way they act... insane.
Kids aren't allowed to be kids anymore.

To be fair kids haven't changed that much.

When I was 15 kids were having sex all over the place. I wasn't though. I was watching dragonball Z.

I see, not sure how it is with other countries but Sweden went from innocent stupid kids to trendy clothes, LOLs and OMGs.

Kissing freaks me out, too. Just the entire concept is so bizarre. My first kiss was really awkward, I just kissed the guy and ran away at the end of the date. I didn't even make it open mouthed.

I still haven't french kissed and it looks so gross that I don't want to. I don't get why people bother. It just looks so absolutely disgusting.

Is that your issue, the gross out factor?

People don't have to kiss with their mouths open. As for it looking disgusting, don't look! Just kidding!
Seriously, I used to think that it looked disgusting too, but when you are the recipient, and you really love someone, then it could be very, very different.

No no the problem is actually "getting" to that stage and maybe a bit of gross out factor aswell im not really sure anyways im not in a hurry to kiss her im just nervouse that she was upset with me not kissing her

Ask her if she is upset with the lack of kissing! It can't hurt, to be open about such things. She might be relieved to be finally talking about the issue.

3 years are u kidding me?....................


STOP BEING SCARED and just lean in and kiss her for god's sake, grow some balls

Not everyone matures like an adult at 15.

Anyway I was going to ask if she had aspergers as some of us have sensory issues and it does involve some saliva.

Use to gross me out even though everyone was doing it. Maybe just slide her one in the mouth. But if you want to play it safe I'd stick with just a peck until you know she's relaxed with it.

Last edited by MissConstrue on 15 Jan 2010, 5:32 pm, edited 1 time in total.

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