Valentines ask out sohuld I accept?

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Iv been asked out by a girl in my college class she is around my age . However im not sure if I should accept shes a nice person but she seems tom boyish (no offence to tom boys) and does not take a lot of pride in her appreal she can look really nice iv seen it but it seems like she does not care. I know it sounds shallow. She lives 30minutes train ride away . She envys me tho which puts me in a difficult position shes a nice person and i dont want to break her heart however she was not really what i had in mind.Plus iv heard one of her family members is in prison which for me rings alarm bells . I just dont know iv tryed doing the pros and cons but that does not really work with emotions.

So the fact that one of her relatives is behind bars (which will have nothing to do with her) makes her undateable. That has to be one of the worst excuses for a kop out I have ever heard.

Give the girl a chance and go on a date with her, see what she is really like.

ok

Just say yes and enjoy

What's wrong with tomboys? Many people are a bit sloppy, or don't have quite the appearance they could, that's nothing new. And so what if one of her family members is in jail... has SHE ever been in jail? And even if she was, maybe she has recognized her mistake and changed. The fact that she's interested is good, you should definitely give it a go.

If she is genuinely nice, I think you should say yes. I urge you to be careful about how you judge a person though. One of her family members may be behind bars, but that should not reflect on her as it has nothing to do with her really. I think if you are going to assume that she is undatable and it rings 'alarm bells' because of something a family member did and not her, then perhaps you should say no so that she can then find someone who will not judge her on this basis. It's up to you.

Ja, having a relative behind bars doesn't mean anything. Look at my grandmother, she's a schizophrenic psycho who tried to kill her daughters (my mom and aunt) several times.

Has no effect on me though.

im going to go out with her and see how things go thanks for pointing out my wrong jujgments and helping me make the right dicstion if things work out that's great if they don't...they don't

DO IT. Accept her invitation out. I learned that one negative characteristic or trivial matter about someone shouldn't disqualify going out with them. If it did for me, I would still never have had a first kiss.