For all aspie virgins and those who just hate being alone?

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I wanted to to start a thread so we aspies that are virgins or not that cannot get in a relationship at all or had trouble with them or feel like the opposite sex ignores them completely.Well I will start off, I am 17 turning 18 in July but due to stress and issue at school I know do school at home thru an online school.So I have were nowhere to go to meet those of the opposite sex because bars are out of the question and I wasn't gonna have much luck with school because It was very bad school with lots of pregnant girls or people I wasn't attracted to,I don't want kids yet or want to be a stepfather for another mans kid who didn't man up.Also there where cliques well lets just say,I was a nerd has in I was good in history and science and I liked video games a lot but it was also kind of obvious that I wasn't like the rest of the kids to them I was weird.But to top that sundae of fail I also have a weight issue which I am currently trying to resolve(any tips). Due to my age,gender,and hormones you can imagine I am not thrilled about being a virgin and what may seem has my one goal.But in my mind I know for sure that not all I really want is some to love me for who I am that's not family and of the opposite sex,someone who can be their with me through good and bad,someone I can hang with and help each out when were sad or depressed.I wanted a relationship mind you I am not talking about marriage or anything like that I am not old enough for that yet.Sometimes it feel like girls don't even know I exist and I am not good with social interaction,have low self-esteem,and bad anxiety.Sometimes I feel so bad that I will never be able to get into a relationship that I will be devoid of that part of my life forever and that to satisfy the other half I would have to go to Nevada,or Amsterdam to visit a prostitute but I wouldn't feel right.I can go to anyone for advice on relationships because my dad had a series of bad relation ships before he met my mom and my mom is a women which the relationship game is a whole different story for them then it is for men,my little brother is only 15 and autistic but not the kind he would have a girlfriend,and my old brother has the same problem and just got out of bad relationship and the worst part it was his very first and he rushed things he was miserable the 4 yrs she lived here,I was also miserable because she was a manipulative tyrant and when ever we tried to say something to her,my parents included she would start the water works lock herself in my brothers room and non of us could get a word in edgewise.The worst part is you see all these wonderful ladies out there with the idiots out there that don't deserve to even be in the same room has her but he still has a girlfriend really hurts morale and makes you feel even worse about yourself.I guess this should be the point where people would say a little about themselves well here I go.

Name:Zachary Lemieux
Age:17 turning 18 this year
Location:Pawtucket, Rhode Island USA
Gender:Male
Orientation-Straight
Race no big deal but:White,French Canadian and 1\16th Lakota Sioux
Turn on's:Smart,funny Kind caring,Red Hair,Brown hair,glasses,White or Asian I am not racist that is just what I am attracted to but who know who I will meet in this big world
Turn offs:Obese I have a not in the way most people thinks,overly skinny,selfishness,manipulative,overly relgious,republican,greedy.
What I bring to the table:Funny,caring,I like baking and cooking,doesnt box emotions up,does hide behind a facade,not cocky,down to earth,Organized.
Interests:Video games,Anime,Japan,Ancient art,Weapons,Politics,culture,religion,movies,astronomy,archeology,sociology,Anthropology, cooking,food,Cats LOL or otherwise,Autism.I hope one day I can figure out where and how to approach a women and not seem weird or get into a relationship.I would like to here from others male or female,straight,gay,lesbian,bi,or other because who know we could help each other out with our problems.

They sound like a great source of information, Your dad can tell you where he went wrong with his exes and although things are a bit different for women, your mum may be able to give you hints about what girls look for in a guy. It may be a bit awkward for you to approach them, but if you simply ask they may be able to help you a lot.

My mother and father didn't have trouble finding relationships (with the possible exception of my father in his mid-teens when he was struggling with bad acne), but except for the odd tidbit they haven't really been that helpful. Some of my friends are also a lot better at this than I am and I vaguely gather that they don't want to talk about my issues. Don't expect people who are more in the know to be willing providers of valuable information. Even if they are willing they may end up being unable to clearly articulate what works for them.

ok first off, you sound like a great guy and any girl worth a d*** won't care about any "nerd-ness" or really anything you might see as a flaw

second, your mom at least would be a great help! one thing a lot of us girls wish is that guys have some idea how we might react to some stuff

last comment: you seem like most of my guy friends (and me!!) in the interests department

Well thanks the real helps the self confidence and its nice to hear that.Thanks for the advice and the good part is I can really talk to my mom about anything she's really cool like that,I feel really lucky to have her since I know I can count on her whenever I need her.I wonder where I could go to find people to talk to because as my mom said I have a lot more to talk about with girls than my older brother whose major obsession is professional wrestling and that I have a much broader interest scope than my older brother maybe I don't give myself enough credit but I guess feeling so low come from 10 years though it really picked up during high school of being bullied and you tell someone they did nothing and ignoring that torment wasn't an option man know that I look back getting out of the situation was the best decision in my life.I also really enjoy baking I actually made my on birthday cake and for some of my other siblings two and I made my first really complex dish.It was gnocchi with green beans,cherry tomatoes,fresh mozzarella and pesto.Its good to hear this especially from women I really must say thank you,you have been a great help in many ways.