Do you feel unattractive?

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Do you feel unattractive, can you imagine the opposite sex liking you for a long time?

Physically unattractive, no. It's just that people will find out that I am a Christian and vote Republican, and avoid me because of that.

You're probably thinking "Tim, you live in f***ing Texas, you should have women beating down your door then."

Not if you live within 50 miles of Austin. Attitudes toward Christians in Austin are the same as in San Francisco, Seattle, NYC, etc. (that we're all racist, sexist, homophobic, etc.)

"I feel pretty, oh so pretty, I feel pretty and witty..." -- from West Side Story

Yes, I feel attractive. To be honest, I am actually quite average. And I have the most awful looking legs (lymphedoema), but I disguise them, so most people wouldn't know. It's just that I know I am loved, and that gives me confidence and makes me seem attractive.

I walk like someone who takes pride in herself, and when I see strangers slouching or looking like they have low self-esteem, I sometimes go up to them and tell them that they should have confidence and walk tall. I believe that posture is one of the most important contributors to perceived attractiveness. Smiling, and elegance of movement also make a significant difference. These are all habits that can be cultivated if you have a body that isn't grossly crippled.

I don't. I look in the mirror and think I look alright. But it's hard to get a sense of how others view me.

I don't have much aesthetic sense...

I just don't care that much... and I think that by not caring and having an ease that'll be attractive by itself.

I think I have a decent smile though... I just don't have it calibrated properly...

Pugly I think you have a beautiful inner life

Wouldn't say physically unattractive, body language and facial expressionality though - somewhat less than helpful.

As far as imaging myself with a woman in the long term, depends on the personality. I know what kinds/varieties of personalities that I can usually work things out with (usually intelligent/self-assured/altruistic/analytical are on the table as major traits), she has to be someone who can see to the bottom. The trick at 29, working a travel job, etc. just seems to be venue - that and eharmony did a great job of helping me find cool girls but unfortunately the physical attraction has never been there.

Most people where I live are ugly as trash, they have such a low sense of aestethics. This goes for the NT's as well as others. Just because of the way I dress and look and take care of myself, many think I'm some exotic foreigner. Compared to the average nothern swedish person, I look so good that it's almost embarassing for me. Many normal NT's here have social anxiety because of the CULTURE and few have any sense of style. This gives me a huge advantage in social situations but sometimes I'm even too much for these people to grasp, they just don't get it.

When I visit more civilized places, it's usually more classy people who approach me. I send out the right signals for them, which isn't really odd considering I dress as if I just came home from the french riviera and and put so much effort in my appearence and even manage what I eat. Women in particular seem to approach me but not in a horny, rubbing between my legs kind of way (which some of the cheap women where I live tend to do) but rather in a "thank God, finally someone who seems civilized!" way.

Also foreigners usually talk to me as well. People from Italy, France etc always chose to sit beside me in the airport or ask me about directions etc because I seem somehow more "familiar" to them or they just have a higher acceptance and understanding for people dressed and styled like me than swedes do. Most swedes see me with a bit of skepticism. I also usually don't have big problems communicating with foreigners, they don't seem to read so much into things, they just accept people for who they are. The swedes are silent and calculating, suspicious of everyone. If I ask a foreigner something, they will reply instantly and even offer to help etc but swedes will look at me in a strange way and reply as if they were scared of me or as if I was an alien. It's funny because my AS almost seems to disappear when I'm dealing with people from continental Europe or latin america. Some people I know who visited Rome said that they regularly saw my "clones" everywhere and it was weird looking at groups of people and seeing others with my type of posture, appearence, clothes, walking style etc.

Also when I was in Germany and Austria, I was treated like some kind of Duke or something. Not suspicious but people were rather slightly submissive and very eager to please. I never get this treatment in Sweden.

i "feel" or think i look unattractive.. & i would imagine my "personality" is not particularly appealing either.

Physically, I think I'm fine. It's my personality that makes me unattractive.

I think I'm somewhat physically attractive but I must be unattractive in other ways because I have a lot of trouble finding someone.