Rules of dating?

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Those with boyfriends/girlfriends etc. can chime in here.

1) Where to first girlfriend to boys parents house OR vice versa boy to girlfriends parents house?

2) How long until you move in with him?

3)How long until giving an engagement ring guys? (How many months/years into the relationship until you "popped the question"

4)How much did you spend on said ring?

5) Anyone thought of things BESIDES a ring?

6) Do any girls here hate the flowers/chocolate/jewelry mentality? Give me a $60 videogame!! !! !! !!

7) How were you accepted from the others parents (girls: how did his parents except you for there son) (guys: How did it go with your sweethearts daddy saying take care of her or I'll shoot you?) (No seriously hint why NO guy is EVER coming to my parents house!! ! I'll take you to my sister who works in a court system and the husband is a hunter and has guns in the house ROFL!)


Give me your take guys/gals boyfriend/girlfriends or husband/wifes.

Yeah I always wondered why does it always have to be a ring

IMO make it NOT diamonds and something related to one of my mild interest comics OMG a Green Lantern ring! What a lovely guy! ROFL!

Yeah something like that makes much more sense cause Jewels and stuff is cool but it's not really that personal.

Wikipedia tells me it is used to represent a formal agreement to getting married.
And, trivia,

De Beers has ruined many a man's life.

Those with boyfriends/girlfriends etc. can chime in here.

1) Where to first girlfriend to boys parents house OR vice versa boy to girlfriends parents house?

We waited a couple months[b]

2) How long until you move in with him?

We waited almost a year[/b]

3)How long until giving an engagement ring guys? (How many months/years into the relationship until you "popped the question"

At least a year- preferrably more-- but I don't believe in engagement rings

4)How much did you spend on said ring?

My ex spent $2500. Too much.

5) Anyone thought of things BESIDES a ring?

Why need anything? Just agree to get married.

6) Do any girls here hate the flowers/chocolate/jewelry mentality? Give me a $60 videogame!! !! !! !!

Once in a while flowers are nice because they are pretty, but I don't like chocolate or jewelry. I don't want video games either, LOL. Want to win me over? Bring me deep fried cheese curds and a diet coke

7) How were you accepted from the others parents (girls: how did his parents except you for there son) (guys: How did it go with your sweethearts daddy saying take care of her or I'll shoot you?) (No seriously hint why NO guy is EVER coming to my parents house!! ! I'll take you to my sister who works in a court system and the husband is a hunter and has guns in the house ROFL!)

My parents loved him. His mom has passed away and he has no contact with his dad. In my ex's case, my parents knew him already (he worked for my dad). I disliked his family immensely and they felt the same. His mother is Japanese and his dad a control freak. I just couldn't deal with it.

With all the marriage oriented questions you're asking, I hope you already have a boyfriend/girlfriend. This kind of thinking, if you don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend already who you want to marry, will get you in trouble. It's jumping the gun, and it's scary.

Oh. Well see that's my problem as an Aspie the social skills issue and I would of never thought all those marriage questions were an issue. I guess it is thanks for letting me know. No I don't have a boyfriend BTW just my sister is married as well as my parents so I'm thinking from there experience. Darn Social skills!! !!

About presents, ones that show you know the person are good. I'm not big into chocolate usually but I really like gummy bears and sour gummys, when I get given what I like, I know that the other person cares about me.

But, bear in mind I'm a person who has strong beliefs about gifts. If someone gives a crap gift (no thought given about the person recieving the gift), my personal belief is that the gift giver doesn't care about the person. But, despite my belief about gifts, it's always good to think about a persons interests when you're buying a gift (that goes for guys and girls). One more thing though, don't get bath stuff unless you know the other person won't take it the wrong way.

It's all about knowing the person. You wouldn't give a voucher for a gardening centre to a person who doesn't like gardening.

If you are thinking about these things in general, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. If you are looking to ask someone these questions on a first date, it will not go well, LOL. I used to always think about that kind of stuff-- how long to date before being engaged, a "perfect" proposal, meeting future in-laws, etc.

The curiousity isn't scary-- but talking about it to a potential mate too early could be

Thank You MichelleRM78. It's just curiosity. I made a topic on General Autism about rules to see if others on the spectrum suck at understanding NT/life rules. Knowing how stupid I can be at times I'd blurt out something incorrect on the first date since I suck at understanding life rules. but it is also just curiosity since my sister&parents are married.

Let me tell you-- MOST people say or do something really stupid on a first date. It's nerves. Don't be so worried about it. If you do say something stupid and get a weird reaction, try to laugh it off and explain it as nerves. People are pretty understanding, in most cases.

Thanks again. Sadly I'm meltdown prown so I'd start crying thinking to myself "OMG I upset you I'm so so so so so so sorry! I'd feel SO bad!! !! For example I ended up upsetting a coworker and the boss said there was an issue with an employee and I started crying and upset that OMG what if I'm fired they were nice oh we aren't firing you we were just letting you know of a problem. Even when I try to be myself NOT have "bad behavior/upset others" I END UP UPSETTING OTHERS SHEESH!! !!

About the move in with him issue I was thinking a little after a month maybe 1 1/2 or 2 months. I like the 3 months idea. I'd like to have a roommate/boyfriend to live with IMO I'd drive myself insane living alone and if it does break off atleast I can always come back to live with my parents but the quicker moving out the better.

Actually, Michelle's right. I was overstating. You're fine.
Plus, I didn't know if you were a guy or a girl. Usually, those sorts of questions are more an issue if you're a guy. It can be indicative of obsessive thinking. But since you're a girl, I guess it's a bit more expected.
I can understand that desire... But be careful. If you hasten the road to living together, you could potentially bring an end to a relationship prematurely. Living with fiance is difficult. Relationships, on their own, are prone to issues... But when you introduce aspects of independent living, and household issues, things can get completely crazy. Be patient. It's better to know your boyfriend extremely well before you move in, else you run the risk of introducing too many potential variables, and having too many problems all at once. Problems are fine - they get worked through. But if you have a bunch of problems at the same time, that can make things go down in flames. A breakup between two people who live together is much more painful and awkward and difficult to manage. So be careful.

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