NT boyfriend who is getting frustrated with our differences

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I have a boyfriend that is 2 weeks strong. We hang out every day. I am falling for him and I was wondering if any of you had any good advice to tell him so I can teach him more about myself so he does not get frustrated. I want this to work. I do not want to be another one of those people not able to get married because of my differences. Guys help a lady out here.

Frustrated after 2 weeks? Ouch. What specifically is he frustrated with?

just the communication issues that are so different. but he said he is willing to learn.

just the communication issues that are so different. but he said he is willing to learn.

How much communicating could you have possibly done in two weeks? Is it just that you take him literally more often than he expects or is it something else?

First, how old are you two?

Maybe I'm jumping to conclusions, but I got a lil blinking red light from your post. You mentioned 'marriage' in a post about a 2 week old relationship. I understand that the context is completely separate, but... ya know... still. It could be indicative of your mindset.

I can't offer much for thoughts on the communication angle, not without knowing a little more about you two.
But I would like to mention that if you're not sure if he's as 'into it' as you are, you might wanna reign it in, calm down, and simply let the chips fall where they may. If he's feeling much more casual than you, then becoming more emotionally invested yourself, and putting in more personal effort won't serve to pull him in. It usually does the exact opposite. I also wanna point out that if he seems to get visibly frustrated occasionally - already - then that's a sign that he might not be that into you.
Maybe, maybe not. I could be wrong, and I hope I'm wrong, but still, don't pin your dreams on this one person. Unless you're married, that's a destructive habit.

Having AS is not a ticket to assured loneliness. Just keep your head on straight, keep perspective. You'll be fine.

You're bet best, is to be upfront, right from the beginning. Tell him that you really like him alot, that you really want the relationship to work, and that you have some things about yourself that he might not be able to accept, so you want to talk about them before you both spend alot of time with something that isn't going to work.

Oh good lord, two weeks is forever, you should be having sex by now and communication isn't important.