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This weekend me my girlfreind and one of my best freinds sleeping round her house and we are gonna be watching movies all nite i think its gonna be fun....i hope im not sure what could go wrong im just nervous cuz im thinkin of ..... Y'know making "the move" but im not sure i will being my freinds gonna be there n' all so im not really sure what to do have any advice aspies?

it could be embarrasing dats all and i dont wanna make her feel awkward but then again i think i might becuse i havent kissed her in that way for the whole time we have been dating ( you dont need to know how many years )

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during the movie its ok to kiss and make out a little save anything else for after everyone goes asleep

Well i cant really do anything more being we will probably be awake all nite and her parents will be asleep next door and plus i never planned to do THAT in the first place i can barely kiss the girl ( dont think i dont want to cuz i do!! ) cuz i really struggle with this stuff but i just want to know if this time will be the appropriate time ?

i really doupt shed sppreciate me trying to do THAT in her house while her parents where next door and my best freind right next to me

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so your just wanting kissing advice? you can work a few in depending on what type of movie your watching. start with a scary horror movie to get her close then do something witha little comedy you can work kisses in during slow parts

Funny i think most of em are comedy and horrors its just very awkward for me to kiss her and think i done it at the wrong moment if that happend i would have to never see her again out of embarassment and my best freind sseing this would drive me to suicide ( not literally ) but i would sure be embarrased and depressed about f*****g it up.

omg what if her parents saw us kissing then i wouldnt be able to go round her house again throught embarrasment

I will give it a try but i really have trouble knowing when the right time is actually i have no knowlage whatsoever into when the right time is

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really your young and the only right moment is the ones you make yourself. if her parents see of course they will be mad but all parents are like that.

I guess so but y'know i have been dating her for a very long time and i think it about time i did kiss her or sometime soon anyway? Why would her parents be mad? i thought they would be embarrased having caught us kissing

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its nothing personal but every father hates the guy dating his daughter its just one of those things. but get cought in that situation be expected to not stay the night. if anything being kicked out by the parents is more a turn on for the girl. your the bad boy now

Hmm well getting kicked out of the house will NOT help the situation trust me it will embarrass me and her and just make her parent want to shoot me on sight ive already had the very boring talk of " dont rape her" WTF i can barely even kiss the girl and whe n she sleeps round my house she has to sleep in a seperate room we have to go to bed when my parents do becuse they think that im some sort of sex maniac wtf i ask them about it and they say " we are protecting her" FROM WHO?? ME?? to be very honest i very very very rarely kiss her on the cheek if at all and she hasnt said you dont love me or you never kiss me once so i wonder i wait will she ever suddenly outburst with all of these thing saying i never kiss her and all that because im shy but still ill do my best this weekend

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OP,

It seems to me from what I've read that you put a TONNE of pressure on yourself to make sure that this first kiss is absolutely flawless, perfectly timed, etc. (Which is likely the reason it hasn't happened yet).

It might be advisable in your situation to just go for it the next time you feel the urge to... Has it ever happened that she's said something sweet, or smart, made a great joke, etc, and you've felt an immediate desire to kiss her? If so, I would make a promise to myself (If I were in your shoes) to give in to that feeling the very next time I had it. With over-thinking the scenario, timing, quality, as well as the multiple potential conclusions (her parents seeing, your friend seeing, etc) you will just continue to build up the anxiety, as well as your expectations.

It's very reassuring to hear that you two have been together for the time you have, and that she doesn't equate your lack of physical affection with a lack of interest/care. And all the better to help take some of this anxiety away for you. Would be more difficult, I believe, if you had reason to feel a sense of urgency, in addition to the amount of panic (?) you seem to already have over the situation.

If it helps at all to hear it, my one very good friend admitted to me that the first kiss between her and her husband was less than ideal for her. But she loved him, wanted to spend her life with him, and knew that kissing is very malleable part of the whole relationship equation. Given time (and helpful, gentle suggestions), her husband would one day kiss her just the way she always wanted. People cannot be replaced, and if this girl has been happy with you for an extended amount of time without a kiss, I don't think that even the sloppiest of smooches could send her a-runnin'. Sure, you would likely feel embarrassment if she reacted negatively (in your opinion), but so long as you could be willing to receive/consider constructive criticism, there would be no reason to avoid her!

Besides... For all you know, the way that it occurs to you to kiss someone may be the very way she wants to be kissed, and it could be perfect! You'll never know if you never try, and I doubt you'll try if you keep obsessing over so many details. Try to just let it happen, if you can. It's supposed to just be natural, anyway!

@ Side_Kick

Thanks you for the advice and i can tell you i have had very strong urges to kiss her i actually got that feeling today but being in the middle of a classroom would not be the best place but i will stop pressurising myself over it its become less and less of an issue if i just let it come natural and you never know very soon i could be doing just that

Thanks for the advice again and wish me luck

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If you're a teenager, you can use an old trick while watching a film together. Just sit next to her and whenever you go to the restroom, you grab a drink or some potato chips you sit just an few inches closer to her. Eventually, you'll sit shoulder to shoulder and hip to hip unless she feels uncomfortable (at that moment you back off immediately).

The next step is playing with her hands and/or touching her leg with your hands. If she still feels comfortable with that, I'm sure there's no risk kissing her. Just find a right moment, look her in the eyes and go for it. I know it's scary and you may screw up that first kiss, but if she really likes you she may actually think that's kinda cute

Do note, however, that the older you get the less likely this technique will work because more mature women require more mature actions.

Uh'huh thanks for the advice

Im not sure why but i feel that maybe tiuching her leg and hands might annoy her if she is concentrating on the film and then it would be obvious what i was tryying to do i hate having to do all this and sure screwing it up is fine its just the embarrasment of it really and whether or not she will catch on to it i hope she does cuz then if i just kiss her and she not exspect it then it could be at the wrong time I will try i promise but the outcome im not so sure oh well here goes....

any more quick advice would be good as it is tomorrow night and im still kinda nervous

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