Is it appropriate to go out with my friends ex?

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I just recently broke up with my girlfriend I had been with for a while and still kind of depressed about that. And now one of my best friends just broke with his girlfriend. And have discovered that his ex is apparently really into me (which I dont really get why she would be interested in somebody who's main interests are comic books and history and not attractive in the least bit way) anyways I also am interested in her and am thinking about asking her out but idk if it is appropriate as my friend just broke up with her. And I dont really want to ask him what he thinks as he hates her (for a stupid reason because she got an abortion at 14 so he would not get in trouble because he was 18 and did not want him to get in trouble). Anyways what should I do? Ask her out or just ignore her hitting on me because of my friend? (I usually do not realize when somebody hits on me but this is painfully obvious)

Steer clear if you think your friend's ex might be going out with you just to hurt your friend.

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Is the girl more valuable to you than your friend? Trust me on this one, no matter what he may say it will affect your friendship if you date her, I'm speaking from bitter personal experience here. If you think the girl is your soul mate or something by all means ask her out, but do it with your eyes open as to what this will do to your friendship.

It depends on how your friend feels. If he'd take even the slightest umbrage, it may not be worth it.
I've dated my best friends' ex, but he thought it was quite okay. He's not the average guy, though; more than most, he is not the jealous or territorial type. Our friendship did not suffer.

Well- I would talk to your friend-- but be wary of girls who go from one friend to another. That usually doesn't turn out well for anybody involved.

Ehhh maybe not then...

Also to the guy who left the abortion baby comment. I do not need religious BS. We do not know when a fetus truly becomes a baby for all we know the "baby" does not even have a true concienceness until a few months after birth.

Tbh it's generally not. It's only really ok if you know your friend is completely happy if you do. Also bear in mind the possibility that she's rebounding or trying to get revenge on him by going out with you.

Steer clear of the girl but tell your friend what's going on. I may be old-fashioned but if he had sex with her and then she's going to hit on you, his friend, that's kind of cheap. AND she just may be doing this to hurt him. Who knows? But let someone else figure it out. There is a saying in the Bible about a dog never returning to it's vomit. Find a nice, NEW girl and make her your own.

[quote="Xenu"]Ehhh maybe not then...

Ignore that

She is 14 and sleeping with an 18 year old and having secret abortions so she doesn't get the 18 year old in trouble. So that means she doesn't practice safer sex correctly and that brings along all kinds of other issues (physical health and emotional health).
In addition you can't ask your friend if he is cool with you taking this girl out on a date because he still has sore feelings.

If you want to get stuck in the middle of all that go for it but be prepared for what your getting into.

Usually, it is fine. But not in this case. The situation is very messed up and filled with drama. Stay away, FAR away.

I think she had every right to terminate the pregnancy, but she was doing it for all the wrong reasons. The guy broke the law, and this girl sounds complicated to begin with. I think she is trying to use you as a rebound too. The situation is a mess, I would stay away from it as much as possible.

Can't say I think much of your friend to be honest; he should not have taken advantage of a 14 year old in the first place, especially at his age. 18 years-old is old enough to know better.

I would really recommend leaving this girl alone. She sounds like she may be an extremely vulnerable person; who wouldn't be in her situation? She's been sleeping with guys since she was at least 14, has already had an abortion and has just been dropped by the guy she did it to protect. That's got to leave you a bit messed up.

I imagine she is on the rebound, and is probably looking for attention and reasssurance, but I think it would be kinder if you were a friend to her and did not try to take advantage of her desperation. I'm not saying that it ever was your intention to use her, but if you do care about her at all, please just be a friend and leave it at that.

Also, if she is still 14, she is still a minor. Unless you yourself are underage, you could get in trouble.