eHarmony?

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I got matched at eHarmony with somebody who was obviously fake. I'm a freelance writer and since then I have seen the ads for writers to pose as a "match." I should have twigged when I said that I'm a reader and got 5 different matches who all said "James Patterson - short chapters!"

Did anybody here do any better?

It wasn't eHarmony, but OKcupid, another dating site. I met a woman a couple of times who I shared some interests with. It didn't go too badly, she was nice enough, but I think she just wasn't interested in me to any great extent, and I her, I suppose. I might have a look at eHarmony.

Heh, one of the first questions is 'how many times have you been married?' I'm guessing that this is gonna be divorcee city...

My ex-boss, the Sinister Mr. Scrooge, signed up for EHarmony. He'd get at least 5 to 10 replies every day. It's not exactly selective.

Those sites are stupid. This Google parody of a dating site makes me laugh, though: http://www.google.com/romance/tour.html

I had luck with OK cupid. I did alot of casual dating, and ultimately found my partner on that site.

I have noticed on alot of paid websites have fake postings, including eharmony. I personally don't like eHarmony for a variety of reasons (partially because OKcupid does something similiar better, and its a free site).

My only issue with eHarmony is that they tend to discriminate against many groups. It's not limited to the LGBT community, but they tend to be the country club of dating sites.

Eharmony parent company is owned and operated by christian fundamentalists. That's why they discriminate against... well everyone except the cookie cutter 50s notion of romance: same race, man and woman, religious.

Match.com is seemingly run by a group of ex car salesman: upsells, sleezy marketing ,etc etc... you name it they've done it. As soon as you buy A from them, you'll get an e-mail trying to sell you B. If you buy B they'll try to sell you C. Lots of members on match.com (well at least women) are gorgeous though. But none of them were looking for anything serious.

OKcupid is a dating site for geeks. No really. I looked around and found like three above avearage looking women there. Zero athletes.

Online thing has been a complete waste of time for me. I must have met 10-12 interesting women in real life during the couple of years I've been trying online.

When I filled out the forms from E-Harmony, it came up with an error message saying I was unmatchable... Seriously. I've used a few of the other sites at different times, I've met women from Match, OKCupid, Adult Friend Finder and Craigslist, and at this point I'd have to say the best of the bunch is Craigslist, with a few very large caveats. I did a whole thread on how to use CL to meet people once, so I'm not going to rehash it here, but the short version is that if you want to meet serious people on CL, you have to be patient, post a picture, use a code word system, and be prepared to weed out a bunch of fakes, if you're willing to go through that it's free, local and popular, and I've met everyone from one night stands (by mutual consent) to LTR material there, it's all a matter of knowing where and how to look.

Okcupid seems superior in every way.

I just plain can't do online dating. I can't look through pictures of me and find any that actually look like me. Then again, I have the same problem when I look in the mirror.

Is there a body dysmorphic dating site?

Wow. I guess from a fundie point of view, being gay would count as "mental instability".

I've heard from other people (and I think this was actually in an article) that they discriminate against the LGBT community. Now, I'm straight so this doesn't affect me, but I'm also human, so those slimeballs ain't getting my money.