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ToadOfSteel
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15 Mar 2010, 12:07 am

I've been reading a lot here about how a woman that will use whatever excuse to spend time with you probably likes you, which seems to me like a sign that should actually be readable to me. But I'm not seeing any of that in my life, with any women that I might come across in my life. If anything, most of the time women are trying to get away from me. I did see a little bit of this effect with my ex while we were together, and I know that I should be able to see this at the very least, but I'm not. Is it possible that there just isnt anything that women could possibly see in me?



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15 Mar 2010, 12:59 am

A woman might look at you, twice in a row, or she might lick her lips. She could also flick her hair back, if it's long, and than look right at you.


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15 Mar 2010, 1:47 am

CockneyRebel wrote:
A woman might look at you, twice in a row, or she might lick her lips. She could also flick her hair back, if it's long, and than look right at you.


The problem is that those are things that go right over my head. A woman wanting to spend time around me for no reason is something I can pick up on, and makes sense to me.

What would be interesting to see is if i walked down a street, say, in new york city, and have an NT there with me looking to see if anyone else is projecting anything at all...



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15 Mar 2010, 7:26 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
I've been reading a lot here about how a woman that will use whatever excuse to spend time with you probably likes you, which seems to me like a sign that should actually be readable to me. But I'm not seeing any of that in my life, with any women that I might come across in my life. If anything, most of the time women are trying to get away from me. I did see a little bit of this effect with my ex while we were together, and I know that I should be able to see this at the very least, but I'm not.


Well, there are many reasons why women may want to associate with you, and attraction is just one. Your best bet is to simply associate with as many women as possible regardless of the level or type of attraction they may feel. There are soooo many cues women use that it's certainly not possible to know or document them all. In addition, it'll vary greatly from one culture to another.

Just hang out with as many women as possible.

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Is it possible that there just isnt anything that women could possibly see in me?


Yes, it's certainly possible. I mean, I could win the power ball lottery tomorrow even though I didn't buy a ticket (e.g. someone bought a ticket for me). But I wouldn't count on it. IMO, EVERYONE has positive traits (e.g. Bundy, Manson, Dahmer, the weird guy on Fargo w/ bad teeth) which attracts women.



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15 Mar 2010, 7:57 pm

Oh boy, that's encouraging....


Another persepective. Say there's a person you thinks pretty cool - Guy or girl, doesn't matter - and you're interested in hanging around them more often, at least. What sorts of things would you see yourself doing, which indicate your interest in that person?

Now flip it around - That's the sort of thing that people will do when they're interested in you.
I know, seems obvious, but it's sometimes easy to forget just how similar we all are, and focus on our differences instead.