Where am I in the 'league' system

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So, I would like a definitive answer of where I am in the league system that seems a pretty rigid if unspoken law in dating.

This is my picture:



The reason I ask is because in August last year there was a girl who was interested in me, however she was fairly obese (BMI 35-36). Now, although I was friendly I did not find her physically attractive at all, so I didn't reciprocate. However I am starting to wonder now if by doing so I was effectively blocking out people from my own league and therefore making it impossible to have a date, and that I should find ways of trying to make myself more attracted to obese women. Also, am I best off not even thinking about those more average to slightly lower than average girls I am usually attracted to?

You look pretty normal. Get a haircut and gain some muscle and you're easily better looking than the vast majority of men.

You shouldn't settle for unattractive girls (someone who's a 4 or worse). I did once and it was not a happy relationship. Some ugly girls are completely oblivious to their own lack of qualities and will gladly hit on men more attractive than them; also, since these girls get hit on less than other girls, they're more likely to take the active role.

Many men with AS are kept in an artificially low league because of poor social skills. The best thing you can do, is to find a workaround for this. Every social flaw (i.e. the smaller your friend circle, the less you like to party etc.) is something you somehow need to compensate for. Sadly, finding girls who aren't into partying, clubbing, binge drinking and all that can be a tough task...

You're inside of it, therefore you are losing.

lose weight

hit the gym

shave that beard

get a better haircut

quit wearing lose clothing that is too big for you

lose the watch

Then, you might be a 6/10 and have a decent chance at something. As of now, unless you're rich--which appears unlikely--you may have trouble getting anything, being an aspie.

Why would anyway say he needs to lose weight?? I don't see any fat or tummy there... I think gals would prefer the guy in the pic over a skinny guy slipping down the shower drain - or muscles and veins bulging everywhere.

Looks like you got hair loss creeping in there - embrace it! Trying to hide it with weird hairdos, etc, makes one look insecure. If it's going anyway, buzz or shave and be cool with it!

You're definitely at LEAST average-looking.

I guarantee that your physical attractiveness is not the reason you have trouble getting dates. You could probably pay more attention to appearance - gym, clothes/fashion, haircut/beard? (I think the beard looks good but I don't know anything), etc. However, I bet your social skills are the biggest factor, as is probably the case for most of us here...

I think women should be the ones giving him the feedback he needs not guys.

The only thing I'd suggest is to use a better picture. Grainy/low light and camera covering a portion of yourself doesn't exactly give them a good view to make an informed opinion.

my top is thinner and my middle is thicker and my bottom is bottoming out. despite my best efforts. but if I go bald I will invest in a quality wig. but the OP does not look bad. he just needs to find the right person for him, and in a nation of 300+ million, he is sure to encounter over his lifetime, at least a few. but he may have to be much more patient than he is.