Dating someone with AS or NT

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Is it better to date another autistic, or to try finding an NT who likes you for who you are.

wow that is a good question. I have never dated a AS so honestly I could not tell you there. But I want someone who understands and loves me for who I am. Speaking from just coming out of a relationship I am hurting so I really do not know.

The question has been raised many times, but I tend to question its relevance: if you have good chemistry with another person, that matters a lot more than whether they have AS or not. So judge relationship prospects on the basis of this chemistry rather than on the details.

its better to date someone who you love and get along with.

I think one should date whomever one finds an interest in, be it that they are AS or NT. You can't know if it's going to work unless you at least try it out. I have dated NTs, and these relationships were all a disaster. I am currently dating a guy who is mildly AS, and we get on extremely well together. We have agreed that I am more Aspie than he is, and he is supportive in this.

Neither. It depends on the person.

+1. AS vs NT is generally irrelevant. It's entirely individual.

It helps if the NT is familiar with ASDs.

It's better to find anyone who likes you for who you are.

It doesn't matter if they are autistic or not, if they don't like you, then the relationship won't work.

Depends on the two individuals involved.

In my opinion, it's much better to be with another Aspie, and I think it works better in the long term from my experience.

I also think it's a lot more likely that you'll be able to love, understand, and relate to another Aspie, and vice versa.

I can say AS/AS can be tolerant of each others shortcomings, but I think that in AS/AS relationships, sometimes the maturity level can be very low and there can be lots of conflicts and the relationship can make others spend too much time with each other, jumping too fast into conclusion and breaking up in a matter of weeks or even days. These are my opinions, because I am probably the most normalized AS people out there, even though I have a little bit AS related issues still, but pretty successful for many AS people.

If you ask me, I am a goal oriented person who thinks very big. I also want to make a lot of money when I graduate from college too and drive a nice car too. I also get along pretty well with my peers and I know how to handle problems well. I guess you can say I am good guy type who is into physically attractive NT types if you ask me, because I enjoy the bad girl personalities, due to the fact that there is a lot of surprises in the long run and lot's of fun too.