Should I ask him out?

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I went on one date with this guy and it went fine. In fact, he said he didn't want it to end and a couple weeks after suggested going out again. He's on the spectrum, and like me, is pretty high functioning. If I didn't already know he had HFA, I would have just thought that he was a little shy. We talk on the phone about a couple of times a week. My conversation skills aren't very good, but he's very intelligent and always tells me about whatever it is he's learned lately.
I do enjoy talking to him, because he's an interesting person and a pretty nice guy, but I don't find myself attracted to him. It's not that's he's bad looking or anything - I'm just not. Then again, I've only met him twice in person. It's been almost two months since we last met up. Even though we chat, I don't know if he'd be interested in meeting up again. I've been wondering if that's mostly my fault, because he's always the one who makes the phone call. I don't because I never know what to say - perhaps he thinks that I have no interest?
I have a very hard time making connections of any kind, but it's even more seldom that I make an even potentionally romantic one. I'd be happy to be his friend, but I'm wondering if I should try for more, mostly because it will probably be a while before I start talking to another guy - even in a friendly way - again.

Your opinions are welcome!

Go with what you feel is in your heart, if you want to, I would go ahead with it.

If you both seem happy with each other because it seems as if he definitely likes you by the way he wished he could do it again. So you got a very good chance.

How long have you met your met your date?

talk to him as a friend. I got to know a guy that way, intellectually at first. If he's a nice shy guy he won't force you to do silly things with him.

Go with what your heart says. That is the one part of anyone, Aspie or NT, that won't send you wrong.

Follow your heart on this one.

I agree with villete... you can't put a price tag on friends. Believe me, I know that there are certain things that friend's can't do (and I'm just talking from an emotional perspective, not a physical one), but even then, every friend you have is invaluable.

Just make sure he's clear that there isn't going to be a thing...