positive things about being single

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I thought it would be nice if we post things that are positive and nice about being single to cheer all us single people up a bit.

not getting disturbed sleep
being able to focus on my hobbies
chooseing what I want to do without haveing to compromise

The freedom to eat as much garlic as I like.

OH the joys of being single...FAR too many to enumerate!

Not having to worry about whether the woman is with me for ME...or just out to use me monetarily.

Not having to compromise...PERIOD!

I don't have to deal with bossiness or PMS or someone overly emotional. The latter is REALLY SCARY!

Not having someone trying to make me change for their own selfish reasons and then calling me selfish because I won't.

Uninterrupted solitude. Whenever and where ever I want.

You know, a funny thing happened to me at a card game one night a couple of months ago. One of the women there has a bit of a crush on me, you see. And she always calls me HUSBAND. Well she mentions something about me and her being in a relationship, and I cringe.

She says, "It'd be somebody to come home to."

To which I replied, "That stuff don't mean $#!@ to me."

The look on her face was priceless in a sad sort of way.

It seems that some people look at you...AS IF...you were some sort of SOCIOPATH just because you actually LIKE being left the FREAK ALONE!

Not being killed and cannibalized because a significant other went crazy.

http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/breaking-news/woman-kills-boyfriend-on-xmas-day-texts-friend-to-see-if-hed-like-to-help-eat-body/story-e6frf7jx-1225843823901

If I'm depressed I don't have to worry about if someone else is depressed or otherwise needs support when I'm feeling tapped out.

Many of us has exhausted plus points. It is like thinking of the benefits of accepting tooth ache. Whatever the plus points are, it is pale in comparison to the tooth ache itself. Loneliness is a tooth ache.

Not having to constantly worry if we our unintentionally p****g off our significant other.

To me, "good relationship > no relationship > bad relationship".

The definite advantage to being single, as opposed to grabbing the first living body that passes you by, is that you don't tie yourself down and lose your chance to find Mr/Mrs Right (if that's your aim).

peace and quiet whenever you want it

getting to listen exclusively to music you like

getting to exclusively watch movies you truly want to watch

not having to spend time around the SO's friends and family who annoy you (let's face it - any given person will probably
have some friends and / or family members who you'd rather not spend time around, in all honesty)

eating whatever you want, whenever you want

not having to talk when you don't feel like it

not having to go out when you don't feel like it

if you talk in your sleep, no one hears you

if you snore, or wrap the blankets around yourself, it doesn't matter

getting to set the temperature of your house exactly as you like it

not falling asleep in someone's arms and waking up with a sore neck as a result

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Flipside of each of the above points in order:

not having someone to talk to whenever you feel the need to talk

not getting exposed to music you wouldn't have listened to otherwise (via the SO's taste)

not expanding your taste in movies via someone else's taste, and having no one to cuddle with while watching movies

not getting to meet cool people you probably wouldn't have otherwise (via the SO's friends and family)

always eating alone

not having someone to get you to go out when you wouldn't be motivated on your own but would have a good time once you actually did it

if you have a nightmare, you wake up alone, with no one to cuddle for comfort

no one to cuddle up to for warmth instead of wrapping blankets around yourself

no one to cuddle up to as a compromise because they like the house colder than you do

missing that comforting feeling of falling asleep in someone's arms

- Not having to worry about how I look.

- Not being called names just b/c I don't want to go out or do it his way.

- Not having to go to the phone every second just to hear him brag about the girls who oogle him at his job.

- Not having those cold clammy hands clutch me everytime we're out somewhere.

- Not being interrupted when I'm in the middle of something.

- Not being yelled at.

- Not having to listen about all my physical and mental flaws.

- I get to blast my "odd" taste of music without him bitching about it.

- I get the place all to myself without him inviting his drunk friends over.

- I don't have to worry all the time like if he's cheating on my back.


Yes there's so much you can do single and yet it's a lonely life. I guess there's always price for something.

Being able to go where I want, see whomever I want, talk with whomever I want, and spend or save my money as I please.

Basically boils down to freedom.

Wow. It sounds like you've been in at least one really bad relationship. *hug*


But I also wanted to comment on this:



It doesn't happen intentionally, but I've noticed a pattern; maybe it has to do with the guys I'm attracted to. But it seems I always worry about how I look more when I'm single.

When I'm single, I follow the basic guidelines for looking attractive. I don't wear makeup, but sometimes I wear jewelry, and I shower every day, shave my legs every day, apply deoderent at least once a day, wear different clothes every day . . .

Then, in every relationship I've had so far, the guy has told me things like, "I don't care if you shave or not. Keep doing it if you prefer your own legs and arm-pits shaven, but don't do it for me," and "You don't have to wear deoderant every day or shower every day - I really like your natural smell in just the right amount. It turns me on," and, "I don't care if you wear the same shirt for a week. In fact, I probably wouldn't notice." So, since I'm just trying to be attractive to him and not other guys, I go by what he says and stop worrying about those things.

It's really nice to come back from a hike or work feeling all sweaty and in need of a shower and hear my guy say, "Wow, you're beautiful."

You can always do better.

wow, Im so glad I made this thread it is definately cheering

I shall add
the wonderfulness of wearing comfy knickers
eating the whole of a meal for two
the top ones are definately freedom and not being bitched at!

No sex.

The liberty to fart freely!