Desperation?

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Anyone else just felt he's giving up on his chances?

I don't care, they can keep saying I don't look bad, and that I'm smart, and funny, in the end I'm alone. And each time I try, I fail miserably.

So why continue trying at all?

Unfortunately I still see good-looking girls, and I don't want to. Nothing good comes from it. They're never my kind, I feel. And if they are, there is some reason why they can't be with me... I just don't believe in my chances I guess. I always hope, but I don't really believe in it. Always pray to find a girl that not only looks good but is for me - but it's not like only the pretty girls aren't for me. The ugly ones aren't as well, I mean... Most people aren't for me.

Just keep hoping for that someone to come along, but I don't really believe...

you are so young, that is a good thing as you have decades to go before you truly will run out of options and time. don't let what happened to me happen to you, hire a professional while you still can right your course.

Similar logic: I don't run very often, and I can't run a 7 minute mile. So why try?

If you have not had any "luck" yet, then clearly you are either being dumped on by the mystical fates, or you're undermining your efforts somehow. My money is on the latter.

The answer is to take action. Find out the things you're doing wrong, figure out how to address those issues. While you do that, also focus on improving your life in general, girlfriend aside. Do things that you're passion about, make you happy, and (most of all) make you proud. Do new things, finish old things. Try things, win some, lose some.
The big picture is that you need lots of action, and a little bit of thought to guide that action. You will likely need to change things, if you want to see your fortunes change.

Sitting around, hoping for things to simply fall in your lap, will likely yield more of the same.

I am starting to think I should give up because it's been so long since I had a relationship I might have aged out of it. It's so weird. Like I should just close the book on it. This girl I used to work with had this story we used to laugh about where some guy said to her 'I don't want another 2 year relationship'. We thought it was hysterical...funny how time changes things. Now that's how I feel. It feels like a pointless endeavor at this point unless it is 'the one', so naturally anyone I get involved with is going to have that expectation hung on them, which is way too much to put on some one. I really don't know at this point, what exactly I should think about it.

I use medications that reduce libido and the rest of the time I watch porn and masturbate, and I no longer care whether women will have me or not, although I often do crave for oral sex from a nice-looking girl.

""yawn"" lol@myself
I am just starting to wake up socially with women now.
If in a conversation they compliment your good attributes,
could you ask them what is the difference between you and someone
that they would be friends or go on a date with?

What would you rather do than continue to try?