We are all too young!! !

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Love? at my age i feel is an emotion best left until later... its full of distractions and other things that are ready to bite you in the ass

Yes i have a girlfreind and yes i will admit i have absolutely no clue what i am doing or supposed to do but the real reason....the real reason the actual reason the only reason i feel so pissed off is becuse off everyone else they are all too young for this stuff and are not ready i can sense it we are all to young to start loving that is until we know and have a grip on what to do not just hug, kiss and f**k? or is that what love is? i talk to people and say oh hows ( insert girl name here) and they say oh i left her she was cheating on me or oh i left her last week this is my new girlfreind!

Its all to extreme for me but sure the world seems like one giant orgy to me cuz everone is screwing everyone!

And I AM NOT READY i have a girlfreind..... im confused what to do? she is with me and still wants to be and i want to be with her but.... what the hell is love? im just so annoyed and confused really


If this thread makes no sense then i am sorry and if this sounds like a rant thats becuse it is!


BTW i am 15!! !! and the messages you are so young and just give it time will probably not help but what the hell i feel like a child so why not shower me in baby talk!

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Well, baby talk isn't necessary, you demonstrate your smarts in the idea's and pressures that you're speaking of.

However this whole experience really varies drastically depending on age, and relationship experience. How I experience a relationship with a girl is nothing like how you do now. The thoughts, the feelings, the expectations, the uncertainties.... Likewise, my current experiences are nothing like how I experienced my first girlfriend. This phenomenon, this difference, is a very profound one.

So, no, you don't need to be babied.... But recognize that everything about love is complex, none of it is simple, and one's outlook on it always changes over time.

I sometimes worry, because I post a lot of stuff on here that's very direct, and relies on a certain level of experience to make sense... Or to even be applicable. Within this forum is a lot of situations and advice and conclusions that have no bearing on you whatsoever, and would only do more harm than good... It's kinda freaky.

So I'd advise you to disregard a lot of what you read on here.

If you want to feel connected with this girl, if you feel affection for her, that's great. Is it love? Who knows. WHO CARES. Appreciate the whole thing for what it is. Enjoy time with her, and that's that. There's no implications. There's no rules. There's no expectations except for what you (or perhaps her) make. Just let go, and do what you want. Nothing else matters, including your future with this girl. Life moves too fast at your age, things change too quick, there's too many silly "what-if's" you could worry about. It's not worth it. Just don't do what you're not so sure about, and do what you are sure about, and enjoy it all. But make sure she enjoys it too
So I guess I was wrong, there is one rule: Only if she's okay with it.

The whole picture will change in like 3 or 4 years, you'll just have to trust me on this, but for now, that's pretty much how it is.

Thanks alot i guess you could say this was exactly what i needed to hear to calm me down thank you and i will just take it as we go and dont take any pressure from anyone else Thank you!!

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First of all, your instinct about being too young for all of this IS RIGHT ! !!

The NT world is absolutely insane about pushing relationships too fast. At fifteen, you really should be just getting to know the opposite sex and how they work and how to talk to them, etc. At fifteen, if society worked the way it should, you should be group-dating and doing stuff with 6-8 people, finding out about all kinds of people, not just the opposite sex. Only in college should you be seriously dating and doing all that goes along with seriously dating. Even at THAT age, many people are immature at the "relationships" game, moreso than they let on.

If you are feeling like life is going too fast, you are probably right. Slow things down to where you feel comfortable. And the old advice that girls mature much quicker than guys really applies at your age. You may find that your maturity in knowing that relationships are going too fast for your age is a breathe of fresh air to the girls you know. The guys, on the other hand, may give you a hard time about it. Stick to your instincts, and you'll do well.

First of all, your instinct about being too young for all of this IS RIGHT ! !!

The NT world is absolutely insane about pushing relationships too fast.

I don't think anyone pushes anyone to have relationships at 15. Unfortunately, once our bodies hit puberty, the hormones push for it-- and for sex. It isn't so much societal, but biological. Our bodies are meant to reproduce and once they hit that point where they can, it is a biological push to find a mate.

I know that we rush all these things and my view is we have our whole lives to do all of these things so why rush it all now?

Too many people entering relationships too early i mean dont get me wrong having a GF at my age is normal i would think but taking it to THAT extreme of have 2 kids and buying a house all at the age of 18 is just....insane and stupid its pretty much throwing your life away to raise another its really sad and i cant help but feel sorry for all of those people and really do hope that i never make that mistake.

I really dont want to sound big headed but somtimes i really do wish people where as shy as me at this stuff at least then there wouldnt be all this stuff about teens going nuts with each other and starting familys when they are just kids themselves!

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