He is so sweet, they say

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At work, my female workmates said, that one of our manual workmates was work was cute and sweat. He works on a team of people of people with learning difficulties, I am officially still a part of that team, though I have move to the offices. He is more or less an NT with mild learning difficulties, and he is excellent at spelling, much better then I was considering a write and read much more then he does.

In ways he is luckier then me; he is happy enjoys himself when he goes out he goes to pubs and bars, he has not hang-ups about people, he is not like an Aspie who would be considered strange, like me and he is a relatively good communicator. I am sure that most NT would also think that he has a healthier attitude to life then I do.

He has probably less luck with woman then me, despite going out more a little more. Anyway it is a little confusing why NT woman say he is cute and sweet, could it be because he has mild learning difficulties or because they know he is not corrupt and manipulative like so many NTs man are, or could it be his attempt to live as most NT do?

Do NT woman have something to gain from saying this, even if they are not aware of way .Everything about NT behaviour has a reason for being.

Often women call a guy cute or sweet to soften the blow that they aren't interested in them. I tend to avoid that, because if I say it they'll probably think i'm into them anyway..

It isn’t the case here, 99% sure of it. One of the woman is sixty and married the other is already in a stead relationship. There is not much danger of him asking any of them out.

I'm Female and people say that, about me. They say it, because I look like Austin Powers and sound something like him, I was born with his Body Language and I have a Sense of Humour. I find it annoying at times, but I'd rather be seen as cute and sweet, than seen as a manipulative Tart. I take it as a Backhanded Compliment.

i think the question you ask is bizarre. They say he is sweet and cute. So what? They are just saying it, probably for no reason except they like him. You can like people and say nice things about them with no ulterior motives.

People don't say or do anything , unless it improve their situation sometimes Aspies do but only to descover the scientific truth the the good of mankind. We have 120 members of staff, many of them are better looking, and more charming. As a logical thinking Aspie, I always like to find out the motive for human behavier. I don't except that things are that reason because they are.

that's a terrible view to have of people in general-they will only do or say anything only if it improves their situation?
if that's how you feel about the world, i don't know how you can survive!

I agree, Moomin. Lol, it's funny. Common aspie talk about how superior they are. Note how he says "aspies do but only to discover the scientific truth, the good of mankind". Such tripe! Most comments have no ulterior motives.
Is there something he has done that makes you doubt that he is actually kind and sweet? Willingness to help, overall happiness and lack of negativity, empathy, these are often reasons why they might call him sweet. You said one of them is sixty. She's probably feeling motherly towards him, and that's why she thinks he's sweet and kind. I get that a lot with older people, too. Your outlook on people is very skewed, and very wrong.

I agree with the other posters who said that my fist guess here is that they actually think he's cute and sweet.

Mmm, I guess that many NTs can give unconditional love, that love goes to benefit the collective has a hole. That collective can be family units, tribe, country, and religion. But it is usually at the expense of their collective units. Think of how ants work as a unit to achieve common goal. I would like to talk more but I have to get back to work, I have more to say on the subject.

You comments appreciated.