last 2 years. . . Now at breaking point poll

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bigbadbeast2007
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15 Mar 2010, 7:12 am

Oi boy it's been a rough couple of years. since i have visited this site and i sure am glad to be back "home". Let's recap those last couple of years. . . it started in late 2007 i finally got the girl of my dreams. . . something seemed weird about her. (apart from being maori). she wouldn't even kiss or show me any affection (at that point it was still early in the relationship). got a job at a sheltered workshop. was well liked there by fellow employee's, but the management staff there were not suited to work people with disabilties. Initailly i overlooked this. Well anyway met a freind from there (still is good mate). He told me about all the corruption of the bosses in the workshop. and i learned the hard way didn't I? long story. . . . well anyway i left the place because of it (he left before me). And as for my girlfriend she wants to marry but there is no way i will taking this step until she shows me love. This girl seems to be selfish only wants to do things her way. It lives with her mother. (Stuck up b***h) and the father drives the church bus. They all go to church (christian outreach center). i really think this girl is playing with my head. (apparently she has mental disability). and because of this I am at breaking point and about to explode. . . . and i don't want to be lonley again if i dump her. . . .

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15 Mar 2010, 8:13 am

bigbadbeast2007 wrote:

Oi boy it's been a rough couple of years. since i have visited this site and i sure am glad to be back "home". Let's recap those last couple of years. . . it started in late 2007 i finally got the girl of my dreams. . . something seemed weird about her. (apart from being maori). she wouldn't even kiss or show me any affection (at that point it was still early in the relationship). got a job at a sheltered workshop. was well liked there by fellow employee's, but the management staff there were not suited to work people with disabilties. Initailly i overlooked this. Well anyway met a freind from there (still is good mate). He told me about all the corruption of the bosses in the workshop. and i learned the hard way didn't I? long story. . . . well anyway i left the place because of it (he left before me). And as for my girlfriend she wants to marry but there is no way i will taking this step until she shows me love. This girl seems to be selfish only wants to do things her way. It lives with her mother. (Stuck up kiwi b***h) and the father drives the church bus. They all go to church (christian outreach center). i really think this girl is playing with my head. (apparently she has mental disability). and because of this I am at breaking point and about to explode. . . . and i don't want to be lonley again if i dump her. . . .

I am guessing from your post that you two come from different cultures. From her perspective, she might be showing you love but you may have trouble seeing it because of your own cultural expectations which may be radically different from hers. If by "shows me love" you mean sex, then perhaps you need to be very direct and honest with her and then accept whatever choice she makes based on what you are asking.

Your descriptions of your girlfriend and her family sound more like descriptions of strangers, not people you know. Obviously I don't know your situation and perhaps your description of it doesn't adequately describe what is going on so maybe I'm completely wrong here, but it sounds like you need to make a greater effort to understand your girlfriend and have a real emotional intimacy with her. If you honestly believe she is "playing with [your] head" you have to assume this behavior will continue even if you get married.

It sounds like this relationship isn't providing what you want or need. I don't see where loneliness is going to be particularly different from what you have now. It seems that you need to ask some fairly tough questions of yourself and your girlfriend to better understand if it is worth continuing with this relationship.

Good luck,

Lars

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15 Mar 2010, 10:13 am

bigbadbeast2007 wrote:

This girl seems to be selfish only wants to do things her way. It lives with her mother. (Stuck up kiwi b***h) and the father drives the church bus.

I'm sorry - did you just refer to your girlfriend as "it?"

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15 Mar 2010, 10:22 am

it refers to a think not showing any human qualities. not wanting to kiss, that odd specially for a girl, maori use to be cannibles id figure shed be all over that

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15 Mar 2010, 2:42 pm

HopeGrows wrote:

bigbadbeast2007 wrote:

This girl seems to be selfish only wants to do things her way. It lives with her mother. (Stuck up kiwi b***h) and the father drives the church bus.

I'm sorry - did you just refer to your girlfriend as "it?"

I noticed that too

I also hope it wasn't the girlfriend whom the OP was referring to as a 'stuck up kiwi b***h'.

Bully on speed, your comment is disgusting and racist.

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15 Mar 2010, 5:20 pm

bigbadbeast2007 wrote:

It lives with her mother.

<snicker> Guess it's at *that* point of the relationship.

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i really think this girl is playing with my head. (apparently she has mental disability). and because of this I am at breaking point and about to explode. . . . and i don't want to be lonley again if i dump her. . . .

A lifetime of misery (guaranteed), or the possibility of meeting the right person later on in your life with a chance at a lifetime of misery?

Ditch her, take your licks, improve yourself (yet again) and keep hunting.

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16 Mar 2010, 6:55 am

sorry to offend anyboy with the racist remark. :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

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17 Mar 2010, 2:52 am

Well I had to dump her and boy i am in so much agony!! !!

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17 Mar 2010, 3:34 am

I'm surprised all the Tim tex arguing rubbish gets locked so quickly and blatent racism like this is allowed to stay open.

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18 Mar 2010, 1:34 am

bigbadbeast2007 wrote:

sorry to offend anyboy with the racist remark. :cry:

What about apologizing for offending any of the girls?

Girls have feelings, too. I think...

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18 Mar 2010, 1:40 am

bigbadbeast2007 wrote:

Well I had to dump her and boy i am in so much agony!! !!

Good, the stuck up maori b***h called "it" probably doesn't deserve a guy like you.

Love is a give and take and although I don't know the girl too well, but just the way you posted about her sort of gives me a clue as to how loveable you are....

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18 Mar 2010, 4:11 pm

GoatOnFire wrote:

bigbadbeast2007 wrote:

sorry to offend anyboy with the racist remark. :cry: