Should aspies hook up with other aspies?

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I was just wondering,

In all of this forum's discussion on how difficult it is for aspies to get dates/relationships...should aspies try seeking out other aspies instead? Or is something like that just a disaster waiting to happen? On the one hand, I know all too well how awkward it can be for aspies to interact with other people. I can see how a relationship between two aspies might be beneficial, but on the other hand, Aspergers isn't exactly universal in its degrees of severity.

I just want your opinions on this.

EDIT: Nevermind, I just noticed the stickied singles list above this thread. I guess that answers my question.

It really depends on the two aspies since we are all very different from one another.
Sorry for the short response I will elaborate later...

No, its a good enough answer. I had temporarily forgotten that relationships are all about two personalities clicking: just because Aspergers is part of what forms your personality doesn't mean that all Aspies are alike.

I think that I would have liked to try it, if only to feel that we have something in common. On this forum is the first time I haven't felt like a total freak, but still at least partial. But, yeah, just because she also is an Aspie, doesn't change the things about me that make it difficult for any woman to stick around, or to choose me as her guy when that choice inevitably comes. I wouldn't be scared off by the traits about her that make her an Aspie, but the question on whether we would click would have to depend our individual characteristics and the effort we both put in. But, this is hypothetical, there is no way I would advise any woman on here to choose me instead of the many other far more appealing choices that are here. I have too many "issues"

I've never been officially diagnosed as an Aspie, but I would still like to date one at some point in my life to see how it works out. I don't feel so out of place on these forums as I do in real life and would love it if that would carry over into a relationship with the right person. Although really I'm interested in any woman that is as into video games as much as I am. Its my biggest interest and I find it hard to relate to people that don't know what I am talking about.

if they are lucky, yes.

Limiting yourself to people with AS is silly. If you're male it would in most cases ensure you remain single indefinitely.

If you have good chemistry with someone who happens to have AS, go for it.

Depends on the two Aspies involved. My last relationship with an Aspie didn't work out too well, but it was fun while it lasted.

I think the bottom line is two people won't get along just because they're Aspies. But they are more likely to understand each other, so a relationship is more likely to work out.

For us straight guys, finding an Aspie of the feminine sex is quite difficult. And I'm not interested in going halfway across the country to find a bride. No, no, no, I will NOT fall under the tempation of eHarmony.com.

It would vary by the two Aspies involved.

I still don't buy the 4:1 ratio, especially since the AS diagnosis is being phased out anyway.

depends on their personalitys. Going out with someone with AS would be cool if you both like the same stuff.

Agreed!

They should date each other if it works, not if it doesn't.

I dont think people should limit potential partners to just AS/NT, They're just digging themselves into a hole.

I fully agree. I know several aspie women that won't get diagnosed expect from a specialist because females have so much more social practice, not to mention easily accepted by men rather than having girl friends. I think the ratio is closer to 1:1, or at worst 1:2.

It depends more on how their personalities and goals mesh. Aspergers is just a condition they deal with. It might be enough to bring a couple together, but it'll require far more than that for anything to work.

Like I have a friend who has issues with her dad, and her boyfriend also has issues with her dad. It's a condition they both share that kind of brings them together, but I wouldn't really call it a common interest and I know their relationship is more than that.

While I prefer other Aspies, I have never required that they be diagnosed.