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johnny_the_greek
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02 May 2010, 5:30 pm

What is love for you?



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02 May 2010, 5:32 pm

Edit:Not very clear, I'll just be straight forward.

Love is the highest level of empathy, where all your own desires become secondary to the desires of the person you empathize with.

But there are quirks in there, for one you have to be aware of what that person genuinely desires and put them towards it. Blindly doing as they please is not what I mean.



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02 May 2010, 5:35 pm

I have found that love means that I don't mind letting a certain person into my personal space, or having them touch me at random unexpected moments. And I genuinely miss them when they are not around.


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02 May 2010, 5:46 pm

Indescribable.



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02 May 2010, 6:12 pm

I second Sound. :)
One aspect though, is that you're willing to sacrifice things for them you wouldn't for other people. They are always worth it, somehow.



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02 May 2010, 7:23 pm

I agree with Hartz, Sound and Spazzer. I'm not sure I understand Dark. I want to add as a mother I love my children so much I would risk my life in order to protect them from harm. I'm very protective of anyone I love. My loved ones' whether they are family or not, are most important in my life.



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02 May 2010, 7:42 pm

It means nothing to me really. I have no reason to love anybody.


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02 May 2010, 7:52 pm

What's commonly called (romantic) "love" is I think just the mental component of our tendency to procreate.


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02 May 2010, 8:06 pm

Just another emotion.
Just another of those silly things people say are different from things like happiness, although I have no idea if they are or are not.
Most emotions are just happiness, anger, sadness or surprise, but in certain situations.
And apparently, that makes them different emotions.
So it's probably like happiness, but bound to a person.
It means rather little to me.
Love is just something that stands in the way.



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02 May 2010, 8:09 pm

Spazzergasm wrote:
I second Sound. :)
One aspect though, is that you're willing to sacrifice things for them you wouldn't for other people. They are always worth it, somehow.

That's probably it.
Oh damn.



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02 May 2010, 8:12 pm

Love is putting someone (or something, if it's an inanimate object) before yourself.



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02 May 2010, 8:29 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
Love is putting someone (or something, if it's an inanimate object) before yourself.

...and that's how you can tell it's more than just an obsession.



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02 May 2010, 9:20 pm

I'm thinking of a song written by a friend of mine:

"The tips of your fingers make my heart beat faster
Your lips still linger on mine.....in my mind."

Those lines sum it up in a poetic kind of way. 8)


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02 May 2010, 10:26 pm

machf wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
Love is putting someone (or something, if it's an inanimate object) before yourself.

...and that's how you can tell it's more than just an obsession.


Love is putting someone before yourself. Obsession is completely disregarding yourself for someone (which induces doormat syndrome). Putting yourself first makes you a narcissist.



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02 May 2010, 10:48 pm

Darkword wrote:
Love is the highest level of empathy, where all your own desires become secondary to the desires of the person you empathize with.


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Love is putting someone before yourself. Obsession is completely disregarding yourself for someone


These aren't love. These are "being a pleaser".

Love to me is the acceptance of someone or something for what it is, even if it has annoying flaws, it's the ultimate deepest form of caring.



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02 May 2010, 10:56 pm

Being a soul mate. Being each others' sanctuary when away from the world, being able to add constructive energy to each others' lives, being able to energize each other, being able to have each others' back (ie. one is strong where the other is weak and vice a verse). Ultimately at its best its two individuals, loving each other for their individuality, and growing stronger/wiser/etc. together along with their bond doing much the same thing - through their own efforts and commitment.