Going back to an ex

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If a relationship with someone ended, and assuming he/she wasn't manipulative or abusive, and over time, would you consider going back to the ex?

It depends upon why it ended. If it was because of changing life circumstances and not the behavior of an individual then yes it could work.

Depending on circumstances, if a relationship failed once, I mihgt consider trying again. If it failed twice, absolutely not.

Have in the past with varying levels of success. If it something you are considering, reflect on the prior experience and whether the changes noted match the problems felt. Unless there is -mutual- progress on those issues, I would be hesitant to do so.


M.

I voted yes, but like the others said, it would depend on circumstance. I have not in the past, but I don't have many exes (3).

I suggest it is folly. I suggest that the good sense that parted you will all become undone should you try to recreate your former relationship. Sometimes leaving the situation is the better choice.
All the regret you might have for what might have been will be is better than the stark truth of what trying to force it actually is. You can resolve a lot of things, getting back together. However the second break up is far, far worse, because you don't have to wonder if what could have been, you already know.

I do not have any ex-es. So I would not know.

Can agree to a point there, Merle - if the goal is to recreate an old relationship then it is doomed to repeat those mistakes. However, if instead it is to forge a new relationship with a familiar partner, then I think there is a chance. One example would be one who I would consider my high school love. Things ended roughly, but we remained friends. Years later, we dated again for a couple years and had some wonderful times. Had I known about my challenges then, perhaps things would have ended up differently - but I am happy knowing that right now I am with the right person for me, and able to share and learn with her.


M.

I have sort of gotten back with my ex wife but only as friends

Maybe if we had to break up because of things unrelated to the actual relationship (e.g. if work took us in completely different directions and we didn't feel capable of managing an LDR).

I did and since then I thought it would get any worse, it turned out pretty good for me I suppose.

Deppends on the situation.

But in general, an ex is an ex because of a reason.

I have done so and have regretted it. It's a very bad idea IMO.

it depends on the healthiness of the relationship and why it ended.