I just realized...

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Why dating sites are too hard. Even on a normal site where you'd typically chat someone up if their single or you just want a friend.

I can't find anything to say or chat about. I've had a couple of decent guys ask me about myself and I freeze up.

I can't even make a profile or explain my interests and thoughts in-depth. I was wondering if I was the only with this problem. It makes me feel severely ret*d and afraid to even develop friendships online. I've already had people get mad at me for not responding or showing "lack" of interest because of this problem.

Any suggestions or advice?

It's usually pretty hard to chat up a stranger online... Asking about stuff on their profile, interests, anything that seems curious is usually a good place to start. After I use those up though I do tend to get a bit stuck wondering if I should try to ask for an in person meet to to have some activity to talk about... Doesn't really end up happening though.

Not really sure to suggest since I don't have much luck there either.

You mention explaining your interests in depth. I think it would be a pointless to do such a thing. If you were to instead describe your interests in broad generalities, that preserves much to converse about.

Moreover, explaining your interests does not particularly help others be attracted to you in their first impression. In men's case, it's often true that the more we type in our profile, the more unappealing, deterrent statements we make! I'm not sure if that's true of you, but it's worth considering.

Yeah, I've given up on dating sites too. I just could never come up with anything to say other than post lists. When responding to a profile, I list what it seems we have in common, list some characteristics about me, list some other interests I have, etc.

I don't say much on my profiles about my interest either. Some people recommend I say more but if I say anymore detail; I tend to start rambling. I don't feel I explain myself well on those about me sections but some people say I do. The 1st couple messages are usually the hardest for me. I check people's pros & make comments on that & talking about the site & stuff. Most people quit responding after a couple messages with me unless there guys or girls who are only looking for friends & have no interest in a relationship with me because of location, age difference ect. I think I do better on message boards because I'm not trying to market myself. Posting about my experiences & giving my opinions is much easier for me. I'm hoping someone will like what I say on em & PM me