It's probably insane to expect...

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...that the same guys that hate a person all through school would suddenly turn around and ask them out.

This is why I never got asked out in High School; none of the guys liked me and made it abundantly clear. It's not like I ever approached them though, given all the verbal abuse. It was then that I knew that if I was going to get anything it would have to be from a completely new/distant/different pool of people.

Don't know what was the deal with college but the pool was slightly different. Didn't seem to matter though. Nobody approached me at all. No dorm, driving to there from home.

And in town now, it seems like everybody's attached. Heh, maybe I need out of this town.

Maybe instead of looking for someone to ask you out; you could try asking someone out. I know that kind of goes against the norm of society but I know lots of guys wish women would ask em out because even guys without AS are horrible at reading signals from women. I would love it if a woman would ask me out

Are you going to places where your interests are shared? For instance if you like art, you'd spend time at a museum, and what have you.

I know the rule is that the guy asks someone out, but it's ok for a woman to step out of the norm and do the asking.

I usually ask a girl out, but there aren't that many people I connect with very well.

...alright....

Shebakoby, I've seen a number of posts by you that say, in so many words, "No one likes me and I'm all alone." Your pain is quite heart wrenching to read, but by now, the first thing that pops into my mind is "So what? What are you doing about it?"
Although I've noticed plenty of 'venting' posts, I've yet to see a topic where you've asked for perspectives or help on how to improve your life.

It doesn't need to stay this way. Especially with the help from others. Clearly you want things to change, but it won't happen without some shake-ups. So how about getting constructive? You could make a post more geared towards, "This is who I am, what I do, how I feel. Here is my situation. But I want the situation to be like this. How do I do that? What am I doing/thinking that gets in the way?"

If you used such a help process to formulate a plan, perhaps your life can change? Perhaps you can instead find yourself posting on hitting milestones and seeing improvements and meeting people?

Try a dating site. Women get heaps of messages on those.

Then I apologize for misunderstanding.

Maybe you're not giving off the right signals. Apparently I generally come across as just not interested in that kind of thing (even when I actually am very interested in the guy). It's tricky but guys don't usually ask girls out without some sort of subtle encouragement - alas the sort of thing I'm often oblivious to.

Some days I feel like just getting a club and smacking a guy on the head with it until their unconsious and then dragging them home like in the cave man cartoons
Course there would be chaos though, so bad idea lol