25 Jun 2010, 7:39 pm
In high school I had very few opportunities to date. My Asperger's made me a late bloomer, and my lesbianism made sure that I had the slimmest possible pickings once I did bloom. It was terribly frustrating.
Now, however, I am about to go to a women's liberal arts college where the girl/girl dating scene is huge. I've already been talking to my classmates online, and about half of them are gay or bi. Most of the girls, straight or not, are willing to be friendly with me on Facebook (messaging, chatting, tagging, writing on each other's walls, etc.) According to my socially attuned mother, some of them have been flirting with me. The school is Asperger-friendly, too - two of the most popular girls on campus have AS. Needless to say, I already have crushes, and orientation is not for another month. 
The problem is that I've had so few romantic opportunities that I don't know how to handle them now that they've appeared. I'm not sure of how to make the most of situations like this without going totally wild. I'm wondering if anyone here has any tips on flirting, determining whether it's time to ask someone out, asking someone out, dating on a tight budget, establishing a deep relationship, avoiding a bad reputation, and other stuff that might be relevant. Sorry to be so broad; I'm very much a beginner. Just ask yourself what you would do in my situation. Thanks!
25 Jun 2010, 9:35 pm
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I've never been in a particularly romantic situation, and I'd probably run away if things were to happen too fast.
One thing that could be beneficial would be to find a friend at this college who you can talk to about these things. Good luck with that.
Also... just out of curiosity: I've never been away to college, but my understanding was that dorms were usually segregated by gender. But what is the dorm situation in a college such as the one you describe?
25 Jun 2010, 11:04 pm
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26 Jun 2010, 4:26 am
Well it depends really what you are looking for, im mean do you want a long term relationship with a girl? the way you describe the place you are going sounds like you shouldnt have much trouble fitiing in 
I guess as you spend time there you will figure out the people and what type of realtionship you want wether you have a low amout of money or anything like that shouldnt matter too much at your age, I say just take it as it comes You could be in for a lotta' fun!! !
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26 Jun 2010, 12:02 pm
Now, however, I am about to go to a women's liberal arts college where the girl/girl dating scene is huge. I've already been talking to my classmates online, and about half of them are gay or bi. Most of the girls, straight or not, are willing to be friendly with me on Facebook (messaging, chatting, tagging, writing on each other's walls, etc.) According to my socially attuned mother, some of them have been flirting with me. The school is Asperger-friendly, too - two of the most popular girls on campus have AS. Needless to say, I already have crushes, and orientation is not for another month.
The problem is that I've had so few romantic opportunities that I don't know how to handle them now that they've appeared. I'm not sure of how to make the most of situations like this without going totally wild. I'm wondering if anyone here has any tips on flirting, determining whether it's time to ask someone out, asking someone out, dating on a tight budget, establishing a deep relationship, avoiding a bad reputation, and other stuff that might be relevant. Sorry to be so broad; I'm very much a beginner. Just ask yourself what you would do in my situation. Thanks!
I'd stay clear of the ones who are 'bi' and keep myself available for those who know for certain they are lesbian. That aside I'd just enjoy myself, go with the flow and just see what happens.
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