Not getting on with women and so on

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I've noticed that some women here have problems interacting with other women at work or find it hard to make friends with other females. I've realised that one of the reasons that I would like a boyfriend is that I want someone to spend time with. Most of my male acquaintances are married, I get on with them ok, but I don't think their wives would be happy if I took them on a day out somewhere. I often get on with the guy and not the wife. My best friend a few years ago was a man and we used to go to galleries and concerts and I really enjoyed his company, but then he got married and his wife won't let him talk to me anymore. She is seriously insecure. I didn't fancy him when he was single, I'm not gonna start liking him now!

Anyway, I do have a couple of female friends, but I get on with guys better. But the platonic relationship often doesn't seem to work out because I find out the guy likes me (ok that's only happened twice) and I don't feel the same. One male friend moved to New Zealand and the rest have got married.

It's not so much that I think love will "solve all my problems". I'm sick of people saying that to me, I know it won't. but I would rather spend my time with a bloke than with a woman. I just get on with them better.

I started being disinclined to female friendships right around when patty-cakes (those rhythmic hand clapping games you do with a partner) became a social expectation.

i'm right around the age when all the people i know are getting married ect... so i worry about this happening to me as well with my male friends.

I find it really hard to get along with women. I can relate to what you both said. I had to break it off, with one of my female peers, two years my seniour, because I wasn't perfect enough for her, and I couldn't relate to her typical female problems.

Generally speaking, I get along better with men than with women, as well. It's kind of funny. When I was working in a corporate setting, I was set apart by my dress -- too plain -- and my disinclination to small-talk and chatting about hair and clothes and the latest episode of American Idol. Now I'm among women with a very different outlook and I'm set apart by my dress -- too formal (I showed up to a meeting the other day in dress slacks and heels and you would have thought I was an alien. ) -- and, well, my disinclination to small-talk and chatting about other topics. In both instances, I've gotten along better with men.

There is a theory that women don't really compete against men but infact they compete against other women. As I am not a member of the female gender maybe I'm not in a position to comment, but I think maybe their is some weight to that.

I've had the same experience as you folks, though I've had a couple of female friends in my life (who also happened to have had mostly male friends), and yes I do think it is partly to do with the competition between women. However lately I've been thinking that perhaps the reason guys have gotten on well with me was because they weren't really interested as a friend, though I was. As you mentioned some of your male friendships went bad because the guy go interested. Likewise I have had NUMEROUS guys tell me that guys don't do friendships with women unless there is some attraction there, some small chance in their mind. It seems silly to me but it does seem to play out... Maybe it's possible for a woman to be "just friends" with a guy but much less so the other way around (at least for most guys).