I'm not the bad guy, am I?

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I met a girl sometime last year. This year she asked for my numbers so I gave them to her. The next day she sends me a message asking if I would like to come to church with her. I agreed. Afterwards she asked me to look into her eyes. I have eye contact issues. Anyway I tried. The next week she tells me she has a bf. A week after that she tells me that she doesn't want me to contact her again, so I stopped. My guess is that she thought I was hitting on her. Today, I saw her while walking and she pointed a finger at me almost as though she was accusing me of something. I did nothing wrong. I'm not the bad guy am I?

You didn't do anything wrong. She just has high, one size fits all expectations.

She seems to be a nut.

I've heard some women say they the way to tell if a guy is honest is by looking in his eyes. I don't think you did anything wrong OP but maybe us here with these eye contact issues could mention it next time someone asks us to look in their eyes I cant make eye contact either & some people think I'm a psycho cuz of the look in my eyes

I say you dodged a bullet. If she has no concept that if people do things differently it doesn't mean they are a 'bad person' then I don't give her much credit for being the sort of girl for you, anyway. You need someone with far more imagination and less 'inside the box' thinking.

And you need to be with a much kinder person. She seems pretty selfish.

Merle

Sounds like a nutcracker.

She was probably trying to convert you XD Now you've had your chance to avoid eternal damnation lol...stupid b*****s....

I'm not saying anything is wrong with christianity, but christians....yuk...

No wait....I'm disgusted by everyone, actually.

Your picture does look like a bad guy though. Seriously.

Saying "look into my eyes" is a pretty weird and stupid thing to ask someone or base your opinion of them on.

Forget her, seems strange.

to be honest, i dont think you need to care about being the bad guy here. this person invited YOU to go with HER, just so that she can say "stop talking to me, i have a boyfreind".

from this piece of evidence, i can hypothesise two theories:

1. she has ego issues, doing this and then pointing at you like she was slamming some daft insult on you made her feel special, or powerfull over other men. in which case i advise you not to talk to this person again, she'll only do something like this again and leave you wondering the same thing.

2. (much less possible but) she told you she had a boyfreind to see your reaction and she's playing hard to get (like i said, not very likely). if this WERE the case, you dont need to care what the hell she thinks. a typical example of a self important "princess"

People know so little about psychology.
The 'great' thing about psychopaths is that you can't tell if they're one.
Because they have the ability to seem normal in the eyes of others.

The thing is that she accused me of trying to hit on her. I didn't nor I had feelings for her. I saw her again today. I ignored her and pretended not to see her as I walked past where she was standing. When I had passed, I could have sworn that I heard her laughing at me! I hate it when my paranoia gets the better of me.

Tell her "Don't flatter yourself" That should bring her back down to earth a bit.

Sounds stuck up and for no reason.. don't bother with her, women who think every man wants them are THE most annoying women ever.

Maybe she got the wrong impression somehow cuz of AS issues Some women think I'm flirting/coming on to em when I think I'm simply being friendly. It's possible that there's more to it but I think your better off avoiding her OP & that laughter sux but try to push it out of your mind

If it is as you say then you are not the bad guy.

She has a boyfriend so who cares anyway.

I am not completely sure of her intentions here. NTish womanspeak is difficult for me to decipher. My instinct would tell me to just leave her alone.