Too LAZY to find a gf/bf?

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Does anyone feel like they are too lazy to bother to find a bf/gf? Or does that not make any sense since if you desire to find one, you will not be lazy.

My laziness may be caused by the fact that I have trouble making normal friendships in the first place. Also, I'm not that much into this whole dating thing anyway. A final thing is that because of my faith, my gf/future wife will need to be a Christian, which is another restriction.

My finding one was a complete and utter fluke
A random accident.

I think the problem for the majority people here who complain can't because they're too lazy to implement advice they're given.

"A final thing is that because of my faith, my gf/future wife will need to be a Christian, which is another restriction."

The more restrictions you put in place the more difficult it will be for you to find a partner. Is it really all that bad if someone has different religious beliefs to you?

Vanilla_Slice

Ya, there will be conflict about what religious beliefs to raise the kids with. There could be other factors as well.

Oh ya, I remember that thread you made.

What I'd do in this situation is raise them in a third faith. So If I was Jewish, and my wife was a Buddhist, we'd raise them Muslim.

That just shows that you are not taking your faith seriously. If you take your faith seriously, you would want your kids to be raised in the same faith as you.

I'm sorry if I offend you, if you're serious. But man, I couldn't even imagine the dinner table conversations. Would your wife stand with you or your child over the Palestine-Israel conflict?

I hardly think it's possible to take any religion seriously.

In all honesty, when I was single, I spent more time hoping for a relationship than actively looking for one.

These things are usually best when found by chance anyways. The best way to make that happen is to just try to be more social and make friends with people. I've only been in two serious relationships, so I can't say that this is some seriously statistically backed statement, but I've never been in a really serious relationship that I actually went out and looked for. I've looked for and started a couple of things that way, but they never really get serious....

Besides, it's a lot easier to find friends than romantic partners, so in terms of the likelihood-benefit product, you're better off looking for friends.

... >.> Is it weird if the way I think about decisions typically includes the term "likelihood-benefit product" going through my head? xD

If you take your faith seriously, you would apply it to yourself, leave it open for education if your children choose to. NOT force it upon others. I was never baptised, My Mum is a Prodastant and My Dad is a Catholic, I am NEITHER and never will be. Neither of them practice anything though, its just what they were born into, and I think forcing faith on Children is a form of mind Manipulation. Let them be their own person.

That said, It only applies to having kids. I don't want any.

I could date a Christian, unless they became annoyed that I wouldn't convert.

I find Christians and Atheists equally narrow minded. Its unlikely I could keep a relationship with people of those faiths.

And before anyone kicks up a stink.. This is a personal opinion, nothing more.

No, I was just kidding around. I'm with hale_bopp on this one. Kids should be left to find their own spiritual/religious/blahblah path.

yeah, so i'm not sure if i'm too lazy or not.
'cause i wasn't really actively looking originally to get into that, it just sorta happened .
A random accident...but a happy one