Which rejection is more "flexible"

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I know that "just friends" = "lets just be friends" = TERMINAL. Thats a fact. But imagine some really desperate guy who tries to grasp at the straws and twist words to convince himself it isn't that bad. In this case which of these are milder, or more flexible, or more twisteable if you will?

Actually I can argue both ways.

On the one hand, I can argue that "lets just be friends" is milder. After all, the word "lets" implies that it is only an option to be discussed, while "just friends" means that it is the way things already are.

On the other hand, I can argue that "just friends" is milder. After all, "just friends" means there are no strings attached -- NEITHER POSITIVE NOR NEGATIVE. So if nothing is going on, then no rejection is going on either. We are just hanging around, that is all. ON THE OTHER HAND, "lets just be friends" is official because it even got its own abbriviation LJBF. So it isn't just friends, it is official REJECTION which makes it worse.

Either way, what is your take on it?

Sorry, I see no difference in the two.

From experience with that type of person that you describe both are to mild if you are in a situation in witch you have to say that to some one obsessed I would advise to be mean really mean it might save a lot of problems in the future. even if it will make both of you fell bad for a copple of weeks

If you have been rejected, then nothing can make it seem better. It is quite obvious that you did not reach your partner's standards. You are fortunate that she is even giving you a chance at further friendship.

In a situation where the other person wants to grab at straws and hold on you are better off making it clear you want no contact.

having stalkers is not fun.