Someone Tell Me What I'm Doing Wrong

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In the past, girls have approached to talk to me, one whose intention was clearly romantic(she stated an interest in dating me-might've been lying but I can only assume) I never carried the conversastion well. They lost interest in me quickly. So I tried approaching them, which went okay though I never made eye contact. So then I approached, made eye contact, started up pleasant conversastions, but then they lose interest in me faster then a speeding bullet. So I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong now. Any ideas?

Did you actually ask them out, or just talk to them? If the latter, then they probably don't know about your change of heart since you've already rejected them once.

Also, they probably felt humiliated for being turned down (not that it wasn't your right to) and so aren't going to give you a second chance.

It's probably best if you move on and ask out different girls

I didn't mean to turn them down, in fact I wanted to go out with them. I didn't realize they took it as rejection.

So I have to tell a girl right away I want to date them?

I have to agree with Lene, they probably took you subtle message as rejection unless of course you weren't being forward. Perhaps their taking this to mean you aren't romantically interested. Who knows.

Probably best to either move on or be patient with some of these girls. Some girls are just not the patient sort who are going to wait. They're probably moving on and trying to find other guys who show more interest. I may be wrong I'm just assuming but I know some girls who tend to just move on to find a guy who may show more interest.

Unfortunately, your body language probably said "not interested," and some women pay more attention to that than to what might be said afterwards.

Personally, I would prefer it if a guy said "yes, I'm interested, I'm just not expressing myself very well." Of course, maybe that's just me, but I don't think it could hurt.

Be up front verbally. If you're uncomfortable with eye contact, tell her that you're "shy" (that's always a good word to use), but you are still interested in a date and would like to get to know her better.

If that doesn't work right away, I agree with Lene and MissConstrue to "be patient"--a girl will come along who will respond to sincerity.

Don't give up.

You should find a female friend who can help you with this problem
A coach, if you will
Some girls might find the task to be fun

You smell desperate. Now, it may not be an actual smell, but women really seem to pick on *some* cue.

If you want something go after it. You have actually spoken to this person so that initial awkwardness should be less. Since she knows you, she can't deny it. So if you by some chance, bump into her, she has to respond with some greeting. She will keep it very brief if she has no interest and probably give you little or no eye contact. With eye-contact, tell her "Look I'm an idiot (okay to call guys idiots so my brother says) and nice-looking girls just get me mixed up sometimes." If she's interested she should be flattered and at least smile. If not you'll definitely know but don't get down yet even if she excuses herself. If you at least was able to convey your interest she might keep you as an option on the back burner. If your next meeting has a greeting of indifference then its time to move on to another interest