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Just tell her "It's you"

If she knows you like her or dosen't but still likes you, result, and if she gets all pissy about it, at least you can call her a hypocrite

Seriously though, the way I see it, you might as well. Risking a little embarrassment for a relationship is always worth it. And good luck.

I've been in a similar situation in the past and it was awkwarrrd

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I told my best friend I liked her last year, she didn't feel the same way but we're still friends just as we were before.

That's a tough call if she likes you or not just from the information you have given. My advice is to just tell her anyway because I can guarantee that you'll regret not doing so many years from now. If she does shoot you down just look at it as a learning experience and move on to the next one.

Hard to say. Ask her out. Don't assume she'll like your more popular friends over you. If she declines then you can help make it not so weird by taking it in stride, smiling, and just telling her you can respect that. Even if you're upset and embarrassed, don't show it because it's that alone which will make the situation awkward.

Don't be one of those guys who keeps damning themselves to the friend zone because of lack of confidence.

You can say something like "It's you. But it's okay if you don't feel the same way."

Giving her a way out that will make it so she doesn't hurt you (as much) will help her to be completely honest with you.

Ask her who she wants it to be.. and add a huge sh# eating smiley emote.

And be sure to tell us how it turns out.. if you have time for us anymore, that is

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OP, I'm thinking that's a positive response from her? And she seems really excited that you like her?

So my comments are based on assuming she reciprocates your feelings: keep in mind that she likes you for you - who you are, and the friendship you've developed with her. There are plenty of NT girls who really like guys who are quiet, interesting and easy to talk to, and you found one of them. So don't freak out - enjoy.

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Congrats, dude!

Cool.

Now, homecoming is just one event. By all means, dress to the nines, bring her a nice corsage (if young people are still doing that. my last homecoming was 1978!), plan what time you're going to pick her up, etc.

And in the meantime,

'Would you like to go out with me to Chili's Wednesday night?' maybe something like that.

That is, you might have a chance at a whole relationship. And as always, take it in medium steps, ping pong it back and forth, and see what develops.

And you can self-disclose, if you so choose, in medium steps, 'You know, in some ways I can really be a nerd,' and if she's accepting of that, you might be able to just go ahead and tell her that you think you have Asperger's.

And you don't need to do anything special, you don't need to 'excel' (I sometimes make that mistake). One reason she likes you is probably that you appreciate her for who she is, and that becomes a reciprocal process. And also that you're real when you talk with her, and that also becomes a reciprocal process (and you don't even need to be perfect at that! You just need to be in there trying both sending and receiving. I can sometimes slide into my mode of all sending-no receiving, and can have a little difficulty coming out of that)

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