Before I get jumped, I'll admit I've not really attempted to put into action what I've learned (no money for getting out), but this is some of it as I can summarize it:
A lot of it seems to depend on time and place. Some places are good to meet someone for a relationship and some places for a one night stand, where women specifically go to get laid.
Trying to attract her without making it look like you're doing so is the main concept behind the art of picking up women. You want to make things flow naturally, which after lots of practice can become possible.
Make jokes and bring up conversations that will make yourself appear interesting. Act cocky (but respectful) and make her question her value in comparison to yours (as exposing your interest can make her feel that her worthiness is more-so superior to yours). I'm not saying to make her feel bad about herself, but to appear as though you have a high social value.
Women are more socially developed naturally than men (even regarding the Asperger's spectrum), because they have received more "hit-ons" than all of your attempts (in general) put together. Either way you are still hitting on her, and she can tell. But if you are following the advice above you will appear less needy (as though successful interactions with women are an everyday thing for you, therefore increasing your social value through her perspective.
I learned this from:
http://www.amazon.com/Mystery-Method-Be ... 993&sr=1-1 Despite the title and overall sleazy-natured vibe it is reeking of, it is not just about pickup skills for getting laid fast, because it is really moreso about forming structured social interaction skills in general, and will help you form relationships easier. Even if you don't follow the same formula, it's still a very interesting read.
MODS -- I'm not spamming (or attempting to). I would like to point out to not just you but all here that even though I'm still figuring things out, I've seen from third person perspective how a friend of mine who is also an Aspie has learned a lot from this book and it's helped him.
I have heard of this technique and even much of the theory behind it. What I need though is a sense of the specifics of the interaction. Having had no experience in this field I want to be able to have a sense of the specifics .For instance the advice about flirting with the eyes that a previous poster gave. I also don't like a sleezy vibe because I instinctively distrust that source of information. My main focus is on creating romantic relationships more so than picking up chicks for casual sex.
31 Jul 2010, 1:01 am
