A sorta-rant about some things

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Yeah, its a sorta-rant because I just don't feel like flinging myself into it with my normal vigor for these sorts of things. Call it constructive/good laziness if you will XD

Yes, these topics within the rant do belong on this section of the forums, so whatever. And yes, instead of my normal threats towards society and whatnot, you'll just have to put up with alot more snark than usual. Dont let it bite too hard. Remember the best way to avoid a snark attack is to either avoid it completely, or just accept it as a part of some individuals personalities.

And yes, part 2 is definitely heavy on the snark, but I am genuinely trying to help for once. Sometimes you have to be blunt as hell so that people can actually see what your pointing out of all things


Part 1: To those who have to demonize those who just simply don't have sexual desires.
I will first acknowledge that at least these forums are accepting of those of us who are like this. However, society can sometimes come down just as hard, if not harder upon us than upon homosexuals at times. Im so god damn sick of the people who think that if you are asexual that you are just too much of a p**** to come out of your closet. I am also sick of those who also say we must be seriously f****d up in the head if we don't desire "The greatest thing in the world" just like everyone else. I classify myself as borderline asexual for the most part because of the following however. I still desire female company, but not the sexual aspects of it. I wouldn't mind having a female companion that I can simply talk to, and just simply feel useful around (no, not in the sense of having to find a point for my existence simply someone to share their life experiences with.).



Part 2: To those who have to constantly tell themselves they are worthless and whatnot when it comes to finding 'love'.
One thing I have really been starting to get fed up with that in turn makes me avoid this section of the forums more and more are those who have to constantly whine about not getting any, but then simply ignore any advice given. Just because I can, I will make this section just a redundant section with my own advice to those who most likely will ignore it anyways because they just want the attention.
--- ADV#1: Don't put yourself down right away. If you have to constantly do it, no wonder you cant find someone, your just too damn immature to acknowledge that actual good things going on in your life at the moment. Sometimes you just have to simply step back, take a deep breath and just assess yourself from an objective point of view. Just because you cant get laid or whatever doesn't mean you are a complete failure. for a quick self-esteem boost, answer this question: Are you able to think for yourself? If so, congratulations, you have found something.... positive perhaps? If not..... I just dunno what to say to you.....
--- ADV#2: Don't lay all the blame on people who aren't accepting your advances, it just makes you come off as an a******, unless they are the type to simply act like a flirt or whatever for the attention/entertainment. They are the so called c***teases if your referring to the female variety. As for the male variety, what would they be called? I dunno.... so moving on....
--- ADV#3: Missed opportunities happen. Its a fact of life, so don't go beating yourself over it, because it just makes you feel like an even bigger worthless sack of flesh. The best thing you can do it just simply pick you self up off the ground, wash off the dirt and blood from the beatdown you gave yourself, and just simply move on.
--- ADV#4: Don't be a crybaby. Everyone forgets perhaps the biggest "Alpha male rule" in my opinion. yes you have to stomach the punches and continue on. Sometimes however, some sensitivity can help, as long as you don't make a big scene out of something small like He/She saying no. there are plenty of other opportunities in this vast hell we call life.



Part 3 I have no idea right now, painkillers kicking in fully now :/


edited: gotta censor some words the chat filter missed :/

Regarding Part 1: Women who are asexual get just as much flak for it. I know--it was like that for years until I met my bf. People would say "Oh, don't you want children someday?" "You've never dated before?" "Aren't you afraid of being alone for the rest of your life?" and so on, and so on. Believe me, I realize that sexual relationships are NOT for everybody. Why can't the rest of the world just mind their own business?

Regarding Part 2: good advice all the way, for both males and females.

i have to admit the crybaby one is the best.

A good friend of mine who does not have trouble getting woman said "No-one is attracted to a f*cking pity party" and he couldn't be more right.