I am wondering is it worth it

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In my 23 years of living on this planet, I have been alone and have been relatively comfortable with it most of the time. My self-centeredness, and my shyness, have always got in the way of me getting a girlfriend. Anyways, I am hoping to find feedback on how other people have dealt with developing a relationship with someone when they have felt comfortable being alone.

Yes its worth it.

I've also had trouble with getting relationships. Read GroovyDruid's articles on body language. They help A LOT!

I think it is good to develop relationships because throughout your life, especially as you grow older, you need a network around you to survive and thrive LIFE. It's important to create your own family type network separate from your family of origin. My father was taken ill this year, and because he has not developed any close relationships over the past thirty years, it ended up that he had to recover from his operation at my mother's house..and they had been divorced for over thirty years! My mother was less than pleased to be nursing the man she'd divorced over thirty years ago. But that's how isolated he let himself become. I felt some anger toward my father that he had not got it together to develop relationships over the past thirty years that he would not be so alone in his time of need...

And my father is too intolerant of my pets to stay with me..so he had to stay with his ex wife ..and she took him in only because he had helped her out with some funds..

The point is that it is to a degree incumbent on all of us to intergrate with the rest of humanity, because if we don't then we are not fulfilling our duty and function as human beings.

I have the same concerns, I am quite self centered, I am quite shy especially among girls, I need some time alone (although not a lot), and I feel I would every woman's worst nightmare. I recommend searching your own feelings and see if a lot of this desire to be in a romantic relationship is coming from society at large or it something that is from you only.

There is no shame in living single and celibate for rest of your life if you are happy with that, many great people like Isaac Newton never been in relationships in their lives. If you can feel you can deal with being alone as opposed to lonely for the rest of your life, you can focus on doing something you feel would make your life worthwhile.

Maybe you're just gay? Sometimes people can be in deep denial about this type of thing. If you are gay, then the first step is to admit it to yourself and not be ashamed anymore. You should probably begin a gay relationship, or find some sort of support network to help you through this rough period, and to know that you're not alone. Hope this helps.

It may seem very far off and not be evident in your twenties, but the fact is that as you get older you have to develop relationships to be a healthy person. Otherwise you end up actually being a person who depends on the charity of strangers to survive. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with depending on charity, but I doubt many very elderly people would choose "meals on wheels" over food cooked with love by family, for example.

You mean physically healthy? In that case, you could always move into an old folks home. What if your spouse dies and you have no kids to cook for you? Or what if your kids/spouse don't want to take care of you? What do you do then?

I'm not gay. Anyways, what that does that have to do being comfortable alone?

Isaac Newton knew what to do. If no one showed up for his university lectures he would give the lecture anyway, to an empty room. Apparently he was not a nice person to be around. He was short tempered and intolerant.

My point really is that part of being human is to interact with others in some way. Even if it is just developing the theory of gravity and writing it down for others in a book.