wanting what you can't have

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i want girls i can't have. but then i got one of the girls i couldn't have. and once i found out i could have her, i stopped liking her. ne1 else have similar situations?

It's the thrill of the chase and not the reward that makes it so fun. You'll find one that you won't want to let go of eventually.

'Can't have' occupies such a large area, and with so many of everybody being as*holes I'd probably feel the same way if that happened to me.

Oh yeah. That's my life story.

Hmm, I've never been looking for what's hard to get. I've wanted what was hard to FIND, which is "forever."

Ironically that's the way its supposed to work for most people, I think for me though quality of connection beats that hands down. Getting litmus tested and put up to a challenge, at least for me, seems like one of those minefields where no matter what I do they either end up hating me for not following or hating me for not doing everything to break the ice and just get em. The only problem if a girl comes on too quick or too easy - I'll tend to wonder if she has any idea what she's after (usually it is immaturity), if she just thinks I'm cute (those kinds of things tend to last until they realize I'm not as mood-driven or innocent myslef), and if she's being too smooth or salesy my alarm bells will start ringing and I'll really wonder what the heck she's after.

Someone who's giving it 50% to sincerely get to know me and wants to find 'our' optimal range of communication - that I'm all about, synergy of personality or emotions rather than either one of us trying to extract a need or some amount of energy out of eachother. Unfortunately that kind of thing and finding a woman who's on that level and thinks that way, at least at 26 and in college its tough to find.

I have been in such situations before, yes.

If dogs can chase buses they don't intend to catch, and cats can catch mice they don't intend to eat, you can go after girls you don't intend to have a relationship with.
It sounds to me as though it's based on a fixation or obsession, that fizzles out once you get to know the person.

I'm gonna have to disagree with most people here. I DON'T fall in love with a girl who would never be attracted to me. While I sometimes idly fantasize about supermodel types, "falling in love" would be a gross overstatement. In reality, I'm more attracted to the girl-next-door types. From my experience, they're more pleasant to be around, and tend to have nicer personalities too. Doesn't always hold true, but as any statistician would say, you don't have to be 100% right, only close.

I sometimes find myself liking men I can't have but I have never been able to get a guy I thought I couldn't have. What was it about this girl that you thought you couldn't have and then got that made you stop liking her linuxGuy555? Did she create this illusion of being nice and then when you got her she was not nice?