New outlook for teens/early 20something guys...

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...that have never had a girlfriend/had sex or anything.

My advice is, find someone who likes you, and who doesn't repulse you to go out with. Doesn't matter if she's hot or your dream girl. Chances are, the girls you think are really hot right now will lose their looks in the next year or two anyway. The women that everyone wanted at my high school for the most part put on a lot of weight or simply just lost their looks in general a few years later.

If you're really shy, take advantage of online dating, meet a girl who doesn't repulse you and is showing interest in you. The idea isn't to find Mrs. Right. The idea is to take dating and sex off a pedestal.

I still have sex on a pedestal because I haven't had it and have bought into society making it sound like this great thing...and moreover, that it's a challenge to sleep with any reasonable woman, no matter how MTV culture tries to paint women as being sl*ts makes some part of me want it even more.

If I could have done it all over again, I would have met a girl online in my late teens/early twenties, dated her, had sex with her, and who knows where I'd be now.

I can speak for dating...it isn't all that. Even when it's going good, it's just any other good thing. Sex...I assume it's the same, but I have to find out for myself to fully internalize it.

Also...as great as boobs look...they feel ok...but they aren't magical or anything you'd think they are. I find myself not even judging attractiveness in a woman by her chest size whatsoever as I've gotten older.

That's what I've been doing for years, and it isn't working... there's only been one woman that was even willing to give me a shot, and the relationship didn't last long at all...

Heck, I'm 30 and I still have the desire for a girlfriend up on a pedestal... All this time I've never had sex or even a date

Tim (aka the Slipperman)

I am sorry, Tim.
You will meet a very nice woman I am sure.
Life does not stop at 30.
You are your priority for who you should focus on taking care of.
I wish you well, Tim.
*Hug*

As the user above has mentioned you still have time to find a suitable partner, on of my best friends is over forty(never asked so I don´t know exact age), she is divorced and has a child from a previous relationship yet a few months ago she started dating a guy and she is vaery happy with the relationship.

I had lost most of my hope on dating however when I saw that she took a chance and meet a wonderfull person I figured I´m not even on my twenties so I should still have a little faith on dating.

Never had a date so I have been reconsidering my standards for sometime and I came to the same conclusion as the original poster, I ´m gonna ask out the next woman about my age and available that shows some interest on me and see where it lands.

I'm sorry, man.

I'm a few years behind you, I'm 27, but I'm in the same position.

I'm 19, but I need to get out more often.

Try OK Cupid. Membership is free.

It really depends on what you want. Getting rid of the virginity is always a good thing. As for the single mom route, that can be fraught with peril unless you play by certain rules.

You will always be second class to her kids. She is looking at you because the men she normally wants are not interested.

Find out where the kids' father is. It's good if the kids are older and out of the house.

Don't expend ANY money on her unless you start getting regular sex. Just remember that she is looking for someone to take care of her and her kids.

Never adopt the kids. Why spend money on kids who are not yours?