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16 Apr 2020, 7:07 pm

How do I handle this? I'm a very attractive female too. This is weird.


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16 Apr 2020, 7:18 pm

After a relationship ends it is normal to spend some time single, to heal, to get over the other person, to understand why the relationship ended, to figure out what you want to do differently next time.


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17 Apr 2020, 5:42 am

Try to feel things out as best you can & do what feels rite for you. If you want to spend some time single for a while to grieve & sort things out with yourself, do it. If you feel your ready for another relationship, try to get one. There is no rite or wrong, just what works for you.


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17 Apr 2020, 5:46 am

After a period of readjustment and not having to live life through the prism of another it can have its attractions.

One thing I have learnt the hard way is not to rush into something new our of panic or fear as being alone.

Alone is underrated in my opinion.


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17 Apr 2020, 6:08 am

All is ok. I do not have a miracle cure. Maybe find a nice hobby to enjoy.


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17 Apr 2020, 9:21 am

During the periods I have been single in my life I discovered my own strengths and experienced significant personal growth and independence. Don't be afraid.


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17 Apr 2020, 9:23 am

Solvejg wrote:
... I'm a very attractive female ...
Evidence, please?

:lol:


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17 Apr 2020, 10:00 am

Solvejg wrote:
How do I handle this?


A sigh of relief might be in order.

Find yourself now.


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21 Apr 2020, 9:47 pm

Solvejg wrote:
How do I handle this? I'm a very attractive female too. This is weird.


Try to enjoy it, who knows, you might start another 22 year old streak soon.


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22 Apr 2020, 7:55 am

Congratulations?



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22 Apr 2020, 11:57 am

I wouldn’t worry about it too much. If you’re a hot girl like you say you are, you’ll probably be dating someone new within a year.

When you’re an attractive woman, dating is on easy mode. Don’t believe me? Sign up for Tinder and watch as you have 1000+ matches within a few weeks. Most guys won’t even get 100.

Enjoy your dating privileges. Most autistic men aren’t so lucky...



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22 Apr 2020, 1:11 pm

Fnord wrote:
Solvejg wrote:
... I'm a very attractive female ...
Evidence, please?

:lol:


The fact she started dating at 12 and stayed dating for 22 years?


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22 Apr 2020, 2:20 pm

Good anecdotal evidence, to be sure. I believe someone was looking for photographic evidence. :)



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22 Apr 2020, 3:32 pm

They just want to look at pics of hot girls :lol: :lol: :lol:


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22 Apr 2020, 3:41 pm

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
They just want to look at pics of hot girls :lol: :lol: :lol:


Of course they do, they're heterosexual male primates. We're not really that much more sophisticated.

https://www.theguardian.com/science/200 ... ch.science

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There is nothing they enjoy more than sitting in front of the TV, watching celebrities at play and images of well-formed female bottoms. Human males, of course, are keen on it, too.

Scientists reported last week that male rhesus monkeys will 'pay' to check out pictures of female monkey bottoms or images of socially dominant members of their species.


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22 Apr 2020, 3:51 pm

The OP started dating when she was 12? That is way too young! 8O

Yeah yeah, I'm old. :roll: I know there's no age where you're automatically able to start dating, but I think you should be at least 15 or 16 years old.

When I was 12 I was still playing with My Little Pony dolls.