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what would you do if your ex bf had been sending you abuseive texts/emails/calls for the last few weeks, said they thought you were unbearable and horrible and refused all attempts at reconsiliation but then as soon as you put up a dating profile suddenly decided that they wanted to get back with you?

Concidering how he was so determined that I was the root of all evil a week ago I can not beleive that he really has positive feelings for me but think he is soley motivated by jelousy. He of course denies this and says he was just angry before and is not now and wants me back.

what would you do??

Kick him to the curb.

Forget him. Seriously.

Trust your gut.

do you think it makes me bad that I wanted him to come back up untill he agreed to, I just dont think he does like me, I think he just doesnt want me to go out with someone else. Shouldnt I be happy that he wants to come back now?

He has been abusive to you. He has shown his true colors. The next time things sour in your relationship, (if you take him back, which I hope you WON'T), he will be abusive again. This much I know.

Him wanting you back is just a form of manipulation. I agree that he just doesn't want to see you happy with somebody else.

Move on and forget him.

With someone who deals with a breakup like this is not worth it. As you're a mature woman, you deserve a mature man and not a child that he seems to have been.

From the description you have given, the problem is him and not you. A relationship is supposed to have one fundamental thing at its roots - FRIENDSHIP, your lover is supposed to be your best friend and someone you can trust....

If he continues to send abusive texts and calls, then tell him if he doesn't stop, you will either call the police, or change your number.

run!

no joke. you'll regret it if you dont

and no you shouldn't be happy that he wants you back or feel bad for not wanting him

it doesnt matter now, he has answered the question himself by starting up again with the abuseive texts. His own worse enemy it seems

so now al your wp friends will pat you on the back and congragulate you for being strong enough to cut me off. just like the other 50 times you said it here. you are the one who always gets me.

i dont believe my phone cals and emails are abusive , i think they are just trying to sort out problems in relationship. i cant bring up problems in real life as she just screams and throws me out. she thinks any bringing up of problem or upset is abusive and critisism.

here is the full abusive text i sent today -

am upset about wp thread, did you want me to cut off contact with you or not? u didnt tell them you kept tempting me by telling me about your new dating. its not fair i guess it is fair as i messed you around. i just dont think wp ever fair as they just take the side of who started thread (or, who can write the most persuasive posts).

Sometimes, as much as one person or the other.. or both want to be with each other, they just can't be..

It could be anything
family
friends

Each persons individual traits

How each can communicate - some people just are more easier to understand then others

could be anything - sometimes, nobody is to blame - forget and move on
if possible forgive..

I'd cut off all communication with him. He's abusing you emotionally and you don't need that. Don't sell yourself short by continuing any relationship whatsoever with a guy like that. What would a guy like that be like if he got you pregnant? Or you were married and you hit tough spots? If he can't handle dating difficulties he's not material for bigger and better things.

If you consider engaging with him take a look at your self esteem - that's where the problem could lie.

Apologies in advance for the strong language in this website, but its straightforwardness and clear description of a puzzling situation really helped me out of the same sort of loop you seem to be in.

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/ ... anip.shtml

Especially difficult for people with AS and related, and I think controlling, manipulative, abusive people home in on vulnerable people with some sort of built in radar. Ugh... but I did find it helpful to learn to recognize and no longer put up with abusive relationships.

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i should not have said my ex screams and throws me out every time there is a problem as that is not true. we have managed to get through problems before.

I think people are too hard on me here though, it is not easy coping with the stresses in her life a lot of the time and imo she has been really sh***y to me at times. i am also sh***y and dwell on things and attack her about them lots. i do that because i feel bad about how i fail and dont do the right thing in stressful times. i think it is not fair to see me as a big bad guy.

anyway i did not even mean i was upset with her i was just upset with the thread and what others were saying. i dont blame her for making the thread as it is true i came back when she was putting dating up.

curb meet his head. Or his butt.