how should i feel?

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right now im at a point in my life where i dont know what to think. first, i should probobly go over the good and bad aspects of my life

good:

i have made great social strides in the last 5 years

i start college in 5 weeks

i consider myself a rather decent looking guy

i just graduated high school finally

i earned 15 college credits in high school

bad:

got picked on when i was younger

have never had a girlfriend, or been on a date once in my life

live in a house with a 15 year old brother who constantly disrespects me and is often a prick to my parents too

have maybe a quarter the amount of friends that i had in summer 2009

seems that no one has the desire to hangout with me these days





i put it in this forum as i couldnt really decide which one it really belonged in and considering this stuff, i have been debating lately if i should feel proud of myself or if i should just terminate my own life considering the way things have gone?

Feel proud of yourself. At my most recent job interview I was asked what my proudest achievement was, and I said getting into university, because of all the problems I've had thanks to Asperger's. It's true. Also, we all have bad things happen - a bully fractured my right arm once. It turned out to be a good thing though because when the plaster cast came off I'd got so used to moving things with my fingers that my bowing technique for playing the violin was MUCH better. Focus on the good things in your life, and enjoy them. Good luck!

i hope thatll happen. the problem is that i will be attending the nearby community college (takes me about 10 or 15 mins to drive there) so im worried that i wont meet alot of new people there. should i give it a chance though before i get too down on myself?

Be happy. Major in a tech field, polish up your fashion sense and work on social skills to blend in and you'll do fine.

Don't worry about the girlfriend thing. Women are replaceable, you are not.

ive already worked alot on my social skills. i guess i just have the confidence issues to work on

You sound like you're doing fantastic, but try to focus more on the present. Try to escape the hurt that the past has brought you, and bring only yourself into the present. This means to let go of the baggage, and start new whenever you want to (because you deserve to, this is your life).

Give new opportunities a chance whenever possible! Many of these things turn out to be beautiful experiences. They will also help you to find out who you are, and build confidence.

Please stay here on Earth. YOU are important and deserving of happiness like everyone else is. Have a great day (hopefully).

All the negative aspects sound like they can be fixed once you're in college, provided you have the right outlook and motivation. Since you seem quite optimistic about that part of your life, I'm going to say that there's a good chance you'll be fine. Find some like-minded people in college (it's a good place to meet new friends, even for Aspies), talk to a few ladies if you can, and try not to become a recluse out of habit (that was my first mistake).

Another thing: I'd advise joining some college groups that relate to things you're interested in. That's something I wish that I'd done when I started. Film club, sports, whatever you like, so long as it puts you in contact with people and gets you out and about.

do alot of people join the clubs and im only attending the nearby community college? i plan to maybe transfer to the University of Washington in 2 years