How do you learn about love and relations?

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If that is something that cannot be told, I might well never get it.

Films, books, the internet, and observation of the species at school and university.

Sure, I may have a horribly skewed idea of human relationships, but I won't know that for sure until I get into one myself. Until then, I'll happily maintain my possibly deluded ideas.

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But seriously, as far as having first hand experience or just getting advice? I get advice and learn from my NT family, NT friends and acquaintances at school, and any kind of media (music, movies, books, internet, etc) I've never been in a relationship but that's probably a great way to learn.

Media is possibly the worst way to learn about relationships, as everything is warm and fuzzy and Disney like. Or shy, ugly, awkward boy meets hot girl of his dreams and she falls in love with him.

You want to learn the basics? Go on a site like sosuave. It will teach you everything you really need to know about women.

Unfortunately, trial and error is the most effective way... as strange as that concept seems. You will not only learn how to build relationships, but you will learn more what you want and don't want.

If you go by the media, you are most likely to fail. Advice from friends who are in good relationships is helpful, but ultimately you are going to have to figure it out for yourself. Everyone's methods are a little bit different, and what might work with your buddy's girl might not work with yours.

Trial and Error, and the internet.

The first time(s) you go and start to interact and probe your way into a relationship, you will probably suck. Like with practicing anything though, you will improve.

Find a "practice girl."

The school of life.

Practice makes perfect.

Twilight?

i have no idea. but i should probably stop listening to the movies

As with anything else in life, you learn from trying, and experimenting. I think there is no substitute for experience.

I would suggest just take baby steps.

I think the biggest failure in life is not trying. I have failed at lots of thing in life and somehow I pick myself up and try again.

And in the meantime, you have us to support you and encourage you!

GO GET EM TIGER!! !

Along with occasionally being some kind of "warm and fuzzy" feeling, love is an act (or love is evidenced by acts) of one's will ... and healthy relationships between people are built on willful acts of love.

Some people only see others as pets or playthings to be placated in order to get things from them, and they try to pass those actions off as good things (love). But in the end, of course, the other person had only been given trinkets in return for his or her own soul.

Avoid doing that or having that done to you, and things will likely go well.

My parents. They've been married 30 years.

Whys that?

go away

Rudeness