My latest failure

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I've already gone on about this fairly much. But I became attracted to a girl who was 15. Probably shouldn't have done that since I'm 23. She ended up rejecting me at 2 different times and after the second time I went to the psych ward due to depression. Now I talked with her for the first time since then and pissed her off unintentionally so she has deleted me from her Facebook friends.

I may be the biggest f**k-up in the world at these things.

That's definitely an issue, as I can't think of a place where 15 is within the age of consent. You'd basically be making yourself a pedophile, at least in the eyes of the law.

I know it can be difficult. I went out with someone who was 17 at the time last year. I know that people our own age just tend to ignore us out of hand. But please, for your own sake, don't pursue this any further.

I do not know what your exact relationship with her is. But when there is no contact necessary between you, just leave her alone. Delete her from you IM and social networks. This will only get you in bigger problems.

Talking with the psych is a good thing, maybe you should visit him again. Or just talk to someone you trust. Some good advice can really help in a difficult situation like this.

Dennis, if you're in a apparent courtship with a 15 year old girl, it could be interpreted as indecent.My advice is to not keep making any form of
communication to her for sometime.

I fail just as much at things as I used to, but I used to beat myself up about it for a long long long time and obsess over my failure esp when it came to girls, that was a major problem for me leading to depression. Going over and over things in my head, reminding myself how useless I was.

I gave up the self flag-legation, somehow I learned to recognise the signs and let things go. Getting older actually helps with that, you have my sympathy as being your age can be very very hard.

[quote="Dennis"]I've already gone on about this fairly much. But I became attracted to a girl who was 15. Probably shouldn't have done that since I'm 23. She ended up rejecting me at 2 different times and after the second time I went to the psych ward due to depression. Now I talked with her for the first time since then and pissed her off unintentionally so she has deleted me from her Facebook friends.

I may be the biggest f**k-up in the world at these things.[/quote


Dennis,

She is jail bait - meaning under the age of consent. I am sorry you had a bad experience with this gal.

And, no you are not a loser - it's just that you and she are not well suited for each other.

Hope you find what you are looking for!

Best of luck,
Leslie

It seems like she was the adult in this situation; rejecting someone far too old for her age. She sounds like a very smart girl.

I'm aware of the age difference, that isn't really an issue anymore though. The failure is, however.

And she didn't really look or act like she was 15. Not that that makes it better but I don't think I'd be attracted to the average 15 year old. <_>

Sorry that you're unhappy and see this as a failure. I would have thought it was a success.

"Hoorah I didn't let it get too far. Hoorah I didn't screw with this young girl. Hoorah I don't have to worry about going to jail."

I can. Most countries in Europe have the age of consent between 14-15, in fact.

Carry on.

It wasn't even close to a point where the age of consent would have been an issue. The issue is more that I'm so bad with this sort of thing that I ended up pissing her off.

The only time I came remotely close to this sort of thing was when I met a 15-year old girl at a community theater while I was a teacher (not from MY school, btw). At that time she was just a casual acquaintance, and we didn't even really talk that much.

About 5 years later we had roles opposite each other as "love interests." We had a little minor fun off-stage, but that was primarily for the purpose of getting through on-stage weirdness. If that had been going on 5 years earlier, I'd likely be sitting in jail right now.

Don't do it, man. Just don't. Find one of her friends about the same age, give it 3 or 4 years, and see what happens. You'll get to be with a younger chick, it'll be legal, and you can shame the crush you have now. Assuming it works out, of course, and you don't meet someone your own age in the meantime.

Something that I've found works for me is that I also get along with much older women. I've never been a "boy toy," but it isn't like I haven't tried! It's just too hard to find the right woman for that, and I'm settled in a good relationship at the moment. It would certainly be much safer than what you're trying to do now. Get out of there.