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Besides people with AS and who are on the spectrum are there other mental health disorders which make it very hard for an individual too establish a relationship? or is just exclusive too us Aspies?

I've wondered about this before...

Same.

Very hard in what way?

Mental health issues, depending (and we have a vast array of them) can cause severe to moderate to barely any issues at all when it comes to communicating, maintaining and even being able to begin a relationship. Consider that you're depressed and suicidal, burdened with the thoughts of how terrible and horrible you are. That makes it difficult to be with other people (to many depressed people, the feelings of alienation and isolation makes for a valid reason to withdraw from social interactions) and it's definitely not easy to start anything new and romantic. Then we have paranoia, delusions of various kinds, psychosis, schizophrenia... Overall, a lot of mental illnesses really dampen your lust and interest in doing anything, and particularly in being around other people.

So there's one way to look at it.

elliterations - from what i have read up on the internet its virtually impossible for an aspie guy too establish a relationship.

Social anxiety can also cause problems with meeting people / making friends / dating.

There are a million different reasons social animals as complex as humans have problems with relationships. It's pretty insulting to think that it's only one single condition that makes it hard.

Its not impossible, but the lacking of all tat social stuff means its like playing on hard mode

I have BPD and it makes it very hard for me to establish relationships. Even just friendly ones. I some times have a hard time being around the people I already know. It's like I have to warm up to them again. I either jump in too soon and automatically assume me and the other person are on a wave length together. Or I don't trust them and "don't" like them for a while. Socializing is hard for plenty of people regardless of their mental state.

Of course there are. We don't have a monopoly on bad social skills and trouble connecting with people.

Narcissists who are probably on the opposite end of Aspies.

I know PTSD makes relationships hard. It makes trusting people very hard. I have C-PTSD and I find it hard trusting anyone completely. Even when I get close to people, my fatalistic mind makes me pull away "just in case something happens to them"....Also, finding somebody who is willing to put up with flashbacks and hyper vigilance is pretty hard. The unpredictability and fears that come with the PTSD make things very tough.