Can Boys and girls with Autism be boyfriend and girlfriend?

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I've had a NT girlfriend before, and it was pure hell...i thought i fell in love, then she says "I don't know what love is", "[removed - M.]", and all these mean things, and in the back of my mind i'm sayin' "WOW, are you serious?", and she kept asking if i loved her....she screwed me up bigtime, plus i hated hugging her...well to my point, can 2 Autistic's be lovers?...cuz that'd be quite awesome

There have been relationships between two people on the spectrum. In fact, there are couples who met on WP and its sister site, Aspie Affection.

I was in a relationship with a fellow spectrumite for three years. The relationship ended nearly four years ago, but she and I are still very good friends.

I don't see why not, particularly as two autistics are likely to understand each other. I've seen couples on here that are both on the autism spectrum, so I guess it must work for some.

Of course! That dosen't mean two people will get along and be perfect for each other just because they're both on the spectrum, we're all indiviuals like anyone else. But they will understand each other, can be more open, and have a good relationship.

Yes.
But both being autistic rarely leads to understanding.
For me, at least.
I do not unerstand anyone and I do not want to.
What is the use of understanding someone?
Will you be able to predict their next move?

Yes, they can be together off course.... I have an girlfriend and she is however autistic...
I don't see anything wrong with that... and so far i've been in a good state since then.

Good luck if you are planning to do so and hope it does go well for you.

I have found that it IS possible but difficult. It took four months for us to be okay with hand-holding, and another three before we kissed. He kept saying he loved me but I was thinking that semantically speaking, it wasn't that big of a deal. Just chemicals telling him that, you know? I felt something closer to scientific interest until 11 months of being with him.
He understands why I can't express myself well, and why I pace in circles on my tippy toes.. mostly..and it doesn't always bother him when I'd rather read than listen to him talk about models from his favorite anime..It's really comfortable now, and I know he wouldn't push me into doing anything too socially taxing, since he hates that kind of thing as well. So it has been a year and eight months.

I think it would probably be easier for him to understand my sensory issues and why I require so much time alone (I just can't handle so much time spent with other people, even just one... I need to be able to retreat into my head to work s**t out).

But I wouldn't date me if I were a guy.

Yes.

Yeah it could work well.

It could also be awful.

Compatibility is just as important for two aspies as an aspie and anyone else.

hi book_noodles my situation is quite similar to yours. this guy and i fell in love with each other due to intellectual interests. we live in different countries but email each other. (we've met each other before at a family gathering.) recently he said he would like a relationship so i suppose he wishes to further our friendship. however i have a difficulty in socialising so i'm scared he will be put off by my inability to talk like a normal person. i've told him about my social awkwardness but not my AS. I said something about relationships not being everything and he hasn't replied since. i'm scared he will be put off by the fact i'm alone and don't hand out with friends like a normal teenager (I'm 19). Should I tell him about my AS? Do you think I should give this future relationship a chance? if all goes well i should be seeing him this december. so far he has been patient with my social inadequacy but i can't expect him to suffer because of my syndrome. he also appreciates emotional support and is close to his family. i am not close to my family. on another note his mum seems to approve of me because i'm the studious, nerdy innocent sort and my family has a number of professionals and academics.

I would have really liked to try. But I've never had a female aspie be attracted to me. It seems like it would be nice to try a relationship with someone that can at least relate to me some.

I am an Autistic transgirl and I am far more attracted to Autistic guys than NTs. I have also dated autistic boys online but haven't met one like me.

I think its far easier for us to date one of our own kind than an NT.