Parents nosy about your dating life or lack thereof?

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Yeah. My mother is a reeeal pain in the ass about that. Seriously, I'll be telling her a story about something my friends did and as soon as I mention a guy friend, she'll interrupt with, "Who's Josh, honey?" or "Are you dating him?"

"No mom, I'm not."

"Why not? He sounds like a nice boy."

"He's dating my friend/I'm not into him that way/Because I don't want to."

Granted, only once had this actually come up with the answer, "Yes mom, we started dating 2 days ago." Then she erupted with questions about him which made me wish I was able to lie about it so she'd leave me alone. She has a difficult time understanding why I don't have as many boyfriends as she had at my age. She was the skinny preacher's daughter who had 28 boyfriends by the time she married my father at age 22. I'm 21 and have only dated 2. I just wish she'd butt out. I don't talk to her about much because she probes for information and I have no poker face to hide anything. I'm tired of telling her, "Mom, I'm a big girl and most guys my age aren't into that."

Oh and since she's so eager to get me dating, that must mean she's okay with me having sex right? WRONG. In fact if I were to lose my virginity before marriage, she'll cut off all financial support and kick me out of the house. "I'm too young to be a grandmother!" She's 46. Her mom became a grandmother at 43. I'm just saying. How can I get her to butt out of my life. I'm an adult for gosh sakes. D:

Sorry about that little rant there. Anyone share a similar problem? Nosy parents, siblings, friends, etc? Rant about them here!

My mother or father ask me occasionally, maybe once a year, if I've met any interesting girls. My answer would usually amount to something like "yes, but the interest isn't reciprocated". The conversation would usually end around there, unless I insist on keeping it going.

If I talk about a girl in my school for a while, eventually they may ask if I'm interested in her, which I'd confirm or deny. Again, though, that would be the end of the conversation.

Now, I've never had a girlfriend, or seriously dated at all. On the other hand, my parents never had trouble dating from their late teens onwards. So they don't relate to a lot of the feelings and issues I have. It's also a fairly sensitive subject, so it's understandable that they don't raise it very often. If I ever have a girlfriend I imagine they could take more interest, but that's uncharted territory so I'm not really sure how interested they'd be or what they'd be interested in. They aren't religious but might have their own reservations about my choice of partner.

Yes. And I would LOVE to be in an relationship and/or have a bigger circle of friends to a)validate myself with my NT friends/acquaintances and b) to shut up my mom.

No offense Erisad, but your mother sounds like a hypocrite and a pain.
Also I agree with the poster above me. That's a huge amount of boyfriends to have had at any age and its disgusting that she had that many by 22 unless they were just "dating some guy for a day".

Im sorry you have to put up with her.

I hope you will be able to move on soon so you won't need her stupid financial assistance.

My parents have given up on the idea of me ever getting a boyfriend, so they are never nosy about that.

My mom gets on my nerves. One time I come home from helping a girl get her tire replaced

"WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN? HAVE YOU BEEN HAVING SEX? WHY CAN'T YOU JUST WAIT?!?! YOU'VE NEVER GONE ON A REAL DATE YOU JUST HAVE SEX WITH EVERY GIRL YOU MEET!"

and it goes on. Like seriously it's my penis get off it mom, FYI I haven't had sex with half as many people as you think I have! Why she insists on holding it against me I don't know at all.

I have had similar problems with the whole asking for a girlfriend and such.

A few months ago I told them that I didnt have a girlfriend and I didnt have any plans on starting a relationship soon and went on to rant about why I had given up on relationships and so.

They have gone from asking once-twice a month to not aking for three months so right now things are far better.

nthach - I know right? Well, I don't need to validate myself to my friends, they all loves me anyway but I just wanna shut up my mom. Even if I had a boyfriend, then the questions would shift. "When are you getting married? You're waiting for sex until marriage, right?" etc.

hale_bopp - I have a brother. He doesn't care what I do. However, if a guy makes me cry he would go to the ends of the earth and slice the guy's dick off with his favorite sword from his collection. Granted, he could never figure out where either of this guys live. So he just ranted instead. She is a terrible hypocrite. I don't know if she had sex before marriage or not I'm not gonna ask. She'd get reeeeeeeally pissed at me. Some of them might have been "for a day" or "for a week" or "until someone better asked me out." Trust me, I'm glad to be moving back to college tomorrow. Sure, it's a temporary break but it'll do me some good. Of course then she'd be like, "why haven't you called me?" Mom, I'm busy. I have classes, homework and friends. I'm not getting drunk so relax! D:

monsterland - Yeeeeah. That was a number her sister gave me, while I think it may have been exaggerated a bit I do think there may be some truth to it. Seriously, whenever she tells me that she found someone on Facebook, a good amount of the time it was either "An old boyfriend" "who I went to prom with" or "some guy who stalked me." Or it was an old "gal pal." XD

Pseudeos and Bataar - Lucky. I wish they would have given up so they'd leeeeeave me alone. D:

Pistonhead - Wow. If our moms would be in the same room, the universe would implode from the mass amount of bitching and stupid assumptions. D:

spongy - I should do that but knowing my luck, as soon as I do that's when my next bf will show up. XD

I rarely get asked about having a girlfriend, which is odd as at 26 I've only ever really had 1!
It's almost like people expect me to be single so don't bother to check.