is this normal?

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so basically, my boyfriend is trying to be really understanding about how sometimes i misunderstand what he says and stuff, he's doing a really good job and he never gets angry, always asks about my feelings etc.

but ever since he's starting being a completely model boyfriend (not that he was bad before, he was just completely average) i've started to become less attracted to him.

i just feel like i'm not worthy of him now that he's so much better than me, and i've talked to him about it and he says he doesn't know what to do because he said to him, i've always been too good for him. -but thats stupid because i'm definitely not too good for him.

i'm not even sure what the question is actually.. just general advice?

This is the same guy that was putting you down, criticising your behaviours, and saying he needed to discipline you?

And then we all told you to run far far away?

Yeah um... you should be pulling away.

Judging from what you've said about him in this forum, the only advice I can give you is...

Make like Forest Gump and run!

perhaps its just another expression of your desire to engage in unhealthy and dangerous behaviors. suddenly you have a man who is giving you a healthy loving relationship, and thats not what you really want inside.

you talked before about seeking counseling for your behaviors. this is something you should talk to that person about.

Might I suggest that you sound like you have self-esteem issues? (Stranger a world away over the internet = font of wisdom. Totally.) It sounds like you're really hard on yourself, and you were okay with what you shouldn't have been because you didn't think you were worth better... and now you have better, you don't think you're worth it, and you're embarrassed by this, and it's awkward?

Am I close, or am I just guessing wildly?

I've been there; a lot of us have. Feeling like that. Most of us have found that we were wrong, and we weren't as bad as we thought.