Warning: Long post ahead. I'm just trying to figure a few things out, and I was hoping for the opinion of some of the crowd here. Thanks for any replies.
Well, I just broke up with my SO after a long, painful 4 months downhill. Things started off extremely well. We were in love, she loved me whole heartedly and I loved her. She seemed to even be cool with my AS, having a brother who also was diagnosed with AS, so she knew all too well how it would effect things. However, things took a turn for the worst. First, her parents began raising cane with me, for no apparent reason. They began to chastice her, first by not allowing her to use the car, so she couldn't go to school. I started taking her to school in my car. Then they did the same with her job, so I took her to work. Eventually she saved enough money to buy a car, so we found her a cheap car. I repaired the car to driving condition, maintained it and she drove it awhile. Eventually, things worsened in her home situation and she was kicked out. At this point, she had no place to stay, so I welcomed her into my home for the time being until I could find her a place to stay. I had friends in the real estate industry, so I was able to line her up with an old house I used to stay in, completely furnished (my old furniture) at a steal of a rate (less than what apartments go for here). Then I got her first 1.5 months stay rent free, whilst she searched for a second job to pay the bills.
It was at this point that things suddenly took a downward spiral. Her primary boss was going through a nasty divorce and began to hit on her(i made a thread within this same section of the board earlier). He raised her hours to 12 hours a day and started telling her lies and starting saying things that would cast doubt onto our relationship. He started calling all hours of the day, past midnite, sometimes at 2am. A few times I was over the house, he was over at as late as 2am, with sorry excuses like "I had to charge my cell-phone". Well, we have our arguments and she gets increasingly distant. However, we continue to have regular sex and still hang out. But he still manages to call on dates. On one particular date, I snatch the phone from her and she becomes scared her boss will chastice her the next day at work. She stops wanting to have PDA (public displays of affection) around her boss because of the "tension" it creates. I question her ast to why she's been acting so distant and she tells me its the stress of having two jobs, holding rent and trying to start a business. She had been talking about starting a business so she could get away from said boss, but as time wore on, her initial start date went from June, to July, to an indefinite hold off because she had to refine her business plan.
I visit her at her job and she's even more distant. She does not want to talk, so I walk out and leave her. As I'm leaving, she chases me down through the mall. We argue out front, leave, argue over the phone, then oddly enough, make up that same evening and she takes me to dinner at our favorite restaurant.
Anyway, long story short, things get worse. I tell her I want to see her before I have to leave this month for a business trip. She completley blows me off every day that week except for the last day, calling with lame excuses. Finally, she comes by (well we met by chance) and her boss was there. I pulled her to the side to give her a hug, kiss and say goodbye and he jumps in my face to fight me. I push him off and we begin to squabble, at which point she jumps between us and sides with him. I left at that point, and blocked her phone. A few days later, she tries to call and hold a conversation as if nothing happened.
After that, I became angry and pretty much cussed her out over the phone the next day. I apologized because I felt bad doing so, but she seemed like she deserved it and every lable of b***h/whore etc I gave her was aptly titled. She tried to guilt trip me over that, so I listed every wrongdoing she has committed against me in the email. I'm tempted to have her evicted from the house and/or go remove my furniture asap, but I'm not sure if this is petty. Honestly, I'm very pissed. Sometimes I wish i could seriously hurt her boss, but I'm going to take the high road. I've removed all evidence of her from my life and I'm trying ot move on. Anyway, think I was unfair with her? Was she cheating?
12 Jul 2006, 6:00 pm
