Aspergers and Sexual Harassment

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So I was reading a book that was guide for aspies going to college. When I read the dating section, it was directed mostly towards male aspies and basically 80% of it was heavily emphasizing about not being a stalker, sexual harasser, creeper, etc. I was amazed, it was more a about not being a creep vs learning how to navigate the dating world.

While being on here, i get the impression that female aspies are at high risk for sexual harassment because they cant read the social signals of a sexual predator.

So...

aspie males = high risk for being a sexual harasser??
aspie female = high risk for being a sexual victim??

Im female aspie and well lets just put it this way. If I were an aspie guy doing some of the stuff to NT females that ive done to NT males. Umm...I would have gotten a restraining order at the least. So I guess I fall under the category of stalker, creep, etc. No Ive never attempted to give a guy unwanted sexual attention so that disqualifies me to sexual predator.

Edit #1: Just a tip for u aspie males who dont want to be branded as a creep. Make efforts not to dress in a way which women might perceive u as a creep. For example, if you have long hair and wear leather jackets, steel toed boots and is slightly overweight. Chances are you are gonna be perceived as a creep. If you dont know if u dress like a creep, ask a friend or family member for some critique. Remember: geeky is better then creepy

As an Aspie man, I merely survived the college social scene.

I rather resent how we Aspie men get stereotyped and classified as creeps on the spot.
I mean, I for one have much lower sexual needs than most men my age,
and I'm one of the few men I know who DOESN'T use insipid degrading derogatory slander to flirt.
Apparently my wide-eyed stare and awkward gestures are enuf to put me in the "creep" category,
and once there, there's no way out. (How do I prove I'm NOT a creep?)

Finally! I've been waiting for a thread on this forever! Looking too long is probably my #1 hindrance to finding someone!! There are days where I wish I was blind!

Yeah, I am recently back in the social scene since splitting from the ex due to "different directions" (all mutual and still friends) but oh boy is it not fun.

and you are right, easy to get in the "creep" box, almost impossible to get out. So i can understand how the sexual haraasment may come about, in fact my ex called my and told me to stop hitting on her friends.
I was quite shocked, because i was just trying to be what i thought wa polite... even i know you don't date your ex's friends.

My next adventures are not going to be a fun lot

Heres my hypothesis for aspie males being easily branded as a creep, etc. NT females are taught to fear men so they easy to brand strange men as creeps based on superficial body language. Since aspie males might do weird things, they easy to get branded as a creep. Ive witnessed quite a bit of talk about branded random guys creeps from my NT females.

Don't even go there.

I am pretty sure I once completely creeped out a girl I really liked because I simply didn't know what to do and was unaware of the fact that she was uninterested. I swore never to do that again, so now I mostly just hide everything inside.

You only find me creepy because you can't live with yourself.
You only despise me because you despise yourself.

Defend yourself for who you are. If someone calls you creepy, call them immature and judgmental.
Do not respect people who disrespect you. Do not silently take verbal abuse. You marginalize yourself by it.

The best way to avoid sexual harassment situations is to research every definition of it. Always stay at arms length. Make formal verbal agreements before advancing. Use breath mints.

You could just actually not care whether people see you as creepy or not. Just modify what you are to suit your personality. If tjhey don't like you there's still plenty of fish in t'sea.

In college, I was assaulted at a couple parties. They were six months apart because that's how long it took my roommate to convince me to go to another one after the first time it happened. And it took me a while to realize that this was actual assault. I could not believe that it happened. I wasn't raped. I should say that. I was fondled and did not consent to it nor appreciate it. I didn't even know the people who did it. Never saw them before in my life OR SINCE! I say to just stay away completely from the social scene in college. Just do your studies, make your grades, push ahead and get graduated. You don't need "the college experience".