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When you are angry or deeply hurt, you may blow small problems out of proportion. Just as love sometimes clouds our objectivity, hurt and anger have a similar effect too. You may be tempted to ask a friend or a close relative to interfere or “make the other person see the sense of your argument”, but remember this approach can easily backfire as friends and relatives may not be objective and biased towards you. It’s therefore advisable to seek relationship counseling if both you and your partner are open to the idea. You may feel hesitant about confiding in a stranger, but remember a counselor is not just a stranger but a trained therapist. Just like you go to a doctor to treat an illness, you can visit a relationship counselor to treat your ailing

I agree with your thought going to a professional for relationship problems is more appropriate than sharing problems with friends and family as this normally leads to more relationship problems. Although I understand the wish to “make the other person see the sense of your argument”, a person should go into relationship counseling, not with a mind to correct or prove the partner wrong, but to find ways to better cope with each other's personalities and issues in order to salvage the relationship. If the other partner feels that he or she is being blamed for the problems in the relationship, then that partner is unlikely to benefit from counseling and will only resent the "complaining" partner. I am sure that you would also agree with this, but I have known quite a few people though who go into counseling in order to make the other person change. Both partners need to change.