Did anyone see Cherry goes Dating on BBC3 last night? She interviewed 7 different women to show a spectrum of single Britsh Women's attitude towards dating. It was quite interesting from the perspective of someone that doesn't really date. It seems to be quite frustrating.
I related to the woman Esther who seems to be on the spectrum herself. She's said that she was just waiting for love to happen, but when she hit 30 she started to wonder why she had been so passive. But her efforts, when she did start to make an effort, didn't seem to work. It's like she didn't really know what to do or how to send out the right signals or know how you are meant to "play the game" and she got hurt because she went about it the way she thought she should but not how you're supposed to.
Why is it so complicated? I try and explain to a couple of my close friends how hard I find this and how I actually can't tell if someone likes me or not. that's why I never say to anyone that I like them anymore, because I honestly don't know whether any attempts I make would be welcome, but they don't understand. Both of these friends tell me that I'll know when it happens and that if a guy likes me he'll let me know, but that never happens. I feel like I'm meant to be sending some sort of signal too, but don't know what.
28 Sep 2010, 10:49 am
