How should I go about this?

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So I just started at community college the other day and see that this is a good chance to meet girls as well as make more friends. I am sure that I am capable of finding a date, but how exactly should I go about it and where should I search and look? I have a few ideas but itd be great to hear suggestions on here!

I would start with an extracurricular activity you like so you start off with a similar interest. I was in gymnastics club where the boy to girl ratio was high (got a few dates from that one).
Drama, where you can work closely as a group (able to get partnered with a guy, and dated others).
Dance Clubs are always looking for guys who like to dance.
I always said, a guy should learn to dance and cook. Two things I wish my husband did (and I should have sent him to massage school too).
Greek (the country) Club, dated a guy there but he was a jerk.
Helped build the dorm float (my first boyfriend there).

As it's been said extracurricular activities are good, just make sure that your schoolwork comes first. Too many freshmen get too involved in activities and end up flunking out.

Try talking to the people sitting next to you in class, male or female. I say this because, as it's been said in the "Creepy" thread, if you're only talking to the girls, you'll be seen as creepy and desperate. D:

this is community college so there are no dorms and there arent as many extracurricular activities as you would find at university. should i sit at a study table in the library and talk to people that way?

I would try the union or cafe instead.
The library is for quiet study and someone may get pissed off if you disrupt them.
If you have a dog take him for a walk around campus - girls love dogs.
Hang out at the cafes, book stores, or coffee houses around campus.

I dont think dogs are allowed there and what I am wondering is if girls at community colleges are usually looking for guys?

Girls are always looking for guys

Of course they are, honey.
Checked out a lot of guys there in my day, prime topic among all the girls.
I met my husband on campus 43 years ago. I was working in the cafeteria and he would come through the line. I sat behind him one day at lunch and we started talking.

I must not be a guy, then...

DUDE! You are my new hero on WP!

Yes! A succinct thought, in just one sentence. Like any other good advice. It beats pages and pages of drivel.

Hey you lonely guys! Did you see this post yet? Girls want the same damn thing you do. They just go about it differently. They expect you to be a man and approach and instigate an intriguing conversation. So you must learn how to do that.

Fairly easy in college, most people are there to partially socialize (especially in JC's or CC's) until they figure out what they want to do with their life.

1. In classes where you find someone with whom you are curious about, you obviously have a common subject and it's fairly easy to meet after class for coffee, a study group or just to ask a question on something with which you want clarification on.
2. In the library/cafe, you'll see people reading. Find out what class/course would require that book and ask them if they're taking that class (oh the internet is awesome).
3. Just wandering around, act lost. You can say "hey do you know where blah blah building is?" and work on your people skills.

Just don't be creepy and stare.

well not being creepy can be difficult as i get very scared when i have to talk to girls as i am afraid of ridicule or rejection. that is my biggest fear. and i would like to get a girl that is as good looking as i am for a guy. like i dont wanna settle for anything less if you feel me